Why Do People Care When A Woman Cuts Her Hair?
By Maria, 9:30 AM on Thu Dec 18 2008,
Looks like it's time for yet another scare-story telling women that a short 'do is a "don't" if they want to attract men. Why are short cuts on women so controversial?
First things first, I should state that I am probably a bit biased: I have the shortest hair of all the Jezebel staffers, but I have also had very long hair. Hairstyles do not work universally: "sexy" long hair on one woman can look like a wet mop of Muppet hair on another; a cute pixie cut on one gal can look like a cry for help on another.
One good part of having short hair? It weeds out the slimy creeps, which brings me to the male "experts" that the Daily News found to weigh in on how un-sexy short hair is:
“If you cut your hair you might be making a statement that says, ‘I don’t want to be seen as a sex object,’ ” says sex therapist Dr. Aline Zoldbrod, who agrees that men are usually more sexually attracted to women with longer hair.
“Men love long hair; the touch and the smell stimulates our senses,” says Matt Titus, Manhattan dating guru and author of “Why Hasn’t He Called?”
“The three physical things that attract a man are a great body, beautiful long hair or great lips. So cutting off one third of your beacons of attraction doesn’t increase your chances of having Mr. Right approach you. It’s like sending a nonverbal message that you’re not interested in sex,” he declares.
Why does everything on a woman's body have to be some sort of signal to the male sex? Articles like this rub me the wrong way because they give men ownership over women's bodies. Suddenly, a hairstyle becomes a "statement" to men and women are basically being told that they should consider how men look at them when they are making choices about what to wear and how to style their hair.
And the thing is, men are not so simple when to comes to attraction to women. It's understandable why Mr. Titus wants to fit men into generalities: it helps him sell books if he can make women believe that all men are the same and he, and only he, has they key to unlock them.
It's interesting that the only man who approved of short hair on women in the Daily News article is a gay (just guessing!) hairdresser who, just a few months ago, said he "didn't love" short haircuts. Curious! I suspect that the inclusion of the hairdresser's opinion is meant to communicate that the only men who want women to cut their hair short is their gay hairdressers — because no straight man would ever think to look at a lady with a cropped 'do.
Missionary Dating Singles
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Missionary dating is on the rise in evangelical churches. What is missionary dating you may ask? Missionary dating is basically the practice of dating a non Christian boyfriend or girlfriend in the hopes that he or she may become a Christian over time, and so become fairgame for a future marriage partner.
Missionary Dating Statistics
This weekend I was talking to a girl who practiced missionary dating with guy, and it worked out famously. The dude become a Christian and the two are now enjoying a blissful marriage, ministering together in a local church. Although I have no real scientific data on missionary dating, I would definitely say that for every missionary dating success story, I have probably heard of 9 others that have failed miserably.
I for one certainly understand and empathize with the reasons single Christians practice missionary dating. Most will say dating an unbeliever or thinking of “unequally yoked” dating because there are simply not enough decent Christian prospects out there, or they are afraid or tired of going through life single and alone. This case is most especially true for singe Christian women due to the dearth of men attending church nowadays.
So, where do we go from here? If missionary dating is not a viable or biblical option, what are the alternatives for finding a dating match in your local area? Our concern for singles dealing with this issue is actaully one of the main reasons we created Christian Dating Service PLUS.
Our advice for those tempted with missionary dating includes the following:
* Understand and redefine your role as you wait on God for a soul-mate
* Increase the pool of potential Christian single prospects by at least trying some of the premier and well known Christian dating site out there today. Here is a good start on understanding how to use christian dating sites.
Overall, missionary dating is a difficualt area, fraught with controversy. However, if you are a Christian, you have a Saviour who promises blessing and a future hope for you…including your dating life.
Missionary Dating Singles
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Missionary dating is on the rise in evangelical churches. What is missionary dating you may ask? Missionary dating is basically the practice of dating a non Christian boyfriend or girlfriend in the hopes that he or she may become a Christian over time, and so become fairgame for a future marriage partner.
Missionary Dating Statistics
This weekend I was talking to a girl who practiced missionary dating with guy, and it worked out famously. The dude become a Christian and the two are now enjoying a blissful marriage, ministering together in a local church. Although I have no real scientific data on missionary dating, I would definitely say that for every missionary dating success story, I have probably heard of 9 others that have failed miserably.
I for one certainly understand and empathize with the reasons single Christians practice missionary dating. Most will say dating an unbeliever or thinking of “unequally yoked” dating because there are simply not enough decent Christian prospects out there, or they are afraid or tired of going through life single and alone. This case is most especially true for singe Christian women due to the dearth of men attending church nowadays.
So, where do we go from here? If missionary dating is not a viable or biblical option, what are the alternatives for finding a dating match in your local area? Our concern for singles dealing with this issue is actaully one of the main reasons we created Christian Dating Service PLUS.
Our advice for those tempted with missionary dating includes the following:
* Understand and redefine your role as you wait on God for a soul-mate
* Increase the pool of potential Christian single prospects by at least trying some of the premier and well known Christian dating site out there today. Here is a good start on understanding how to use christian dating sites.
Overall, missionary dating is a difficualt area, fraught with controversy. However, if you are a Christian, you have a Saviour who promises blessing and a future hope for you…including your dating life.
Christian Singles Secrets
Christian Singles Secrets
Many Christian singles walk around with the burden of carrying personal secrets bottled up deep in their hearts. Whether the secrets are unconfessed sexual sins, painful memories, regrets, shame-filled experiences or totally whacked out thoughts, God did not design us to deal with such raw issues by ourselves.
From the Garden, the Lord created mankind for intimate fellowship with no room for secrets. Adam’s hiding from God after eating of the fruit is the Bible’s first recorded secret. Do you ever wonder what God would have done if Adam and Eve confessed their little “secret” instead of hiding from their Lord? Anyway, we have been keeping secrets ever since, with negative consequences for ourselves and our relationships with others.
The Bible has a neat answer to secret keeping: It’s called confession. Over and over in Scripture, we see see a connection between honest confession and spiritual, emotional and physical healing:
If you confess your sins to God, He promises forgiveness and spiritual cleansing (1 John 1:9).
Lack of confession leads to physical and emotional turmoil; honest acknowledgement to God brings relief of guilt (Psalms 32-2-5).
While only God can forgive, He wants us to confess our sins to each other so that we may pray for each other and experience healing (James 5:6)
Only recently has modern psychology caught up with the Bible in terms of connecting private confession with physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. Dr. James Pennebaker, psychology professor at Southern Methodist University, documents a study which found that confessing our secrets can be good for the soul, lower blood pressure, lessen depression and increase your general sense of wellbeing.
There is certainly no reason why we should not confess our secrets to our Lord, who loves (John 3:16) and sympathizes with us despite knowing all about us (Hebrews 4:13-15).
Despite the fact that confession leads to healing, there are many reasons why single Christians fail to confess secrets to others, whether they be a lack of an appropriate outlet, fear, embarrassment or unreal expectations from our own churches.
Many Christian singles walk around with the burden of carrying personal secrets bottled up deep in their hearts. Whether the secrets are unconfessed sexual sins, painful memories, regrets, shame-filled experiences or totally whacked out thoughts, God did not design us to deal with such raw issues by ourselves.
From the Garden, the Lord created mankind for intimate fellowship with no room for secrets. Adam’s hiding from God after eating of the fruit is the Bible’s first recorded secret. Do you ever wonder what God would have done if Adam and Eve confessed their little “secret” instead of hiding from their Lord? Anyway, we have been keeping secrets ever since, with negative consequences for ourselves and our relationships with others.
The Bible has a neat answer to secret keeping: It’s called confession. Over and over in Scripture, we see see a connection between honest confession and spiritual, emotional and physical healing:
If you confess your sins to God, He promises forgiveness and spiritual cleansing (1 John 1:9).
Lack of confession leads to physical and emotional turmoil; honest acknowledgement to God brings relief of guilt (Psalms 32-2-5).
While only God can forgive, He wants us to confess our sins to each other so that we may pray for each other and experience healing (James 5:6)
Only recently has modern psychology caught up with the Bible in terms of connecting private confession with physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. Dr. James Pennebaker, psychology professor at Southern Methodist University, documents a study which found that confessing our secrets can be good for the soul, lower blood pressure, lessen depression and increase your general sense of wellbeing.
There is certainly no reason why we should not confess our secrets to our Lord, who loves (John 3:16) and sympathizes with us despite knowing all about us (Hebrews 4:13-15).
Despite the fact that confession leads to healing, there are many reasons why single Christians fail to confess secrets to others, whether they be a lack of an appropriate outlet, fear, embarrassment or unreal expectations from our own churches.
Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women
The following article, Sexual Feelings of Christian Single Women, was written by a single Christian woman who is also a mental health professional. The writer thought it important that single Christian men, in their fight against lust and quest for sexual purity in dating relationships, understand how the sexual feelings of Christian single women work:
I just want to say to all the Christian men who think single Christian women don’t think as much about sex as you do - we do. We just romanticize and emotionalize it a bit more. Romance novels are an emotional stimulus that has an end result similar to porn; so do Cosmo and Glamor magazines. This is because emotional and intellectual connection are generally more of what turn women on.
As a woman who was sexually abused in her own home at a very young age, I have struggled a lot with sexual impurity and guilt that my mind fantasizes about my current Christian boyfriend. Long before I met my boyfriend, I went to counseling for years (because of the abuse) and now am a mental health professional. Yet, I know from my professional background that in spite of all my healing, there are just some changes in my brain and my chemistry from childhood that just make me a more sexual person than I otherwise would have been.
I was tired of the guilt and just spoke to my boyfriend about my sexual feelings fantasies and he told me he has similar fantasies. We prayed together that God would help us remain in control of ourselves and our sexual urges because we want to save sex for marriage. We also set up rules for ourselves that would keep us from getting into situations that would give us means and opportunity (because the motive - temptation - is there). Everyone’s different, so details of this are micromanagement, but I think every couple that is dating exclusively (especially Christian couples) should have a sex talk, and share what their insights are as far as setting up fences long before the cliff as not to tip toe until over the edge.
When a Christian single girl learns over time to trust a man that is willing to work with her for the sake of putting Christ first in the relationship (e.g., above sexual feelings and impulses), she is much more free to experience herself and her man as who they fully are, relaxing and knowing that he does not intend to pressure her into sex, either directly or just by exploring her with his hands in ways that tempt her.
For Christian single women, when we deeply connect with a man on other levels (emotional, intellectual, spiritual) we feel a strong need (our own yearning) and obligation (to please) to reciprocate, sexually. Our temptation is to use sex to get more love (remember how much we women romanticize) from a man and validate the love we are already feeling from him. As leaders, Christian men can reassure us of their love, commitment, and devotion that will not fade when we choose not to go all the way during temptation. That is, the world tells we women if we don’t have sex with a man, we’ll lose him to someone else who will, or that we owe men sex in return for pursuing us and sweeping us off our feet. It’s a crock (if the men are decent and worth being with anyway), but some of it sinks in now and then.
A Christian man who puts Christ and participating in Christian service/ministry might see dating as an opportunity to show a woman that he is willing to devote himself to her like Christ did to the church. This perspective might come from knowing that Christ gave to the church more (= to love, devotion, romantic pursuit from a man to a woman) before expecting the church to understand how to receive and give back to Him (= to sexually giving from a woman to a man) and it was all in the context of the deepest of commitments (= to marriage).
God bless all you men who care enough about your relationships with women and with Christ to read this feminine perspective. I hope I have helped you see a little more into what women need and that you can be the best men God intended you to be.
I just want to say to all the Christian men who think single Christian women don’t think as much about sex as you do - we do. We just romanticize and emotionalize it a bit more. Romance novels are an emotional stimulus that has an end result similar to porn; so do Cosmo and Glamor magazines. This is because emotional and intellectual connection are generally more of what turn women on.
As a woman who was sexually abused in her own home at a very young age, I have struggled a lot with sexual impurity and guilt that my mind fantasizes about my current Christian boyfriend. Long before I met my boyfriend, I went to counseling for years (because of the abuse) and now am a mental health professional. Yet, I know from my professional background that in spite of all my healing, there are just some changes in my brain and my chemistry from childhood that just make me a more sexual person than I otherwise would have been.
I was tired of the guilt and just spoke to my boyfriend about my sexual feelings fantasies and he told me he has similar fantasies. We prayed together that God would help us remain in control of ourselves and our sexual urges because we want to save sex for marriage. We also set up rules for ourselves that would keep us from getting into situations that would give us means and opportunity (because the motive - temptation - is there). Everyone’s different, so details of this are micromanagement, but I think every couple that is dating exclusively (especially Christian couples) should have a sex talk, and share what their insights are as far as setting up fences long before the cliff as not to tip toe until over the edge.
When a Christian single girl learns over time to trust a man that is willing to work with her for the sake of putting Christ first in the relationship (e.g., above sexual feelings and impulses), she is much more free to experience herself and her man as who they fully are, relaxing and knowing that he does not intend to pressure her into sex, either directly or just by exploring her with his hands in ways that tempt her.
For Christian single women, when we deeply connect with a man on other levels (emotional, intellectual, spiritual) we feel a strong need (our own yearning) and obligation (to please) to reciprocate, sexually. Our temptation is to use sex to get more love (remember how much we women romanticize) from a man and validate the love we are already feeling from him. As leaders, Christian men can reassure us of their love, commitment, and devotion that will not fade when we choose not to go all the way during temptation. That is, the world tells we women if we don’t have sex with a man, we’ll lose him to someone else who will, or that we owe men sex in return for pursuing us and sweeping us off our feet. It’s a crock (if the men are decent and worth being with anyway), but some of it sinks in now and then.
A Christian man who puts Christ and participating in Christian service/ministry might see dating as an opportunity to show a woman that he is willing to devote himself to her like Christ did to the church. This perspective might come from knowing that Christ gave to the church more (= to love, devotion, romantic pursuit from a man to a woman) before expecting the church to understand how to receive and give back to Him (= to sexually giving from a woman to a man) and it was all in the context of the deepest of commitments (= to marriage).
God bless all you men who care enough about your relationships with women and with Christ to read this feminine perspective. I hope I have helped you see a little more into what women need and that you can be the best men God intended you to be.
Is your tongue out of control?
Is your Tongue out of Control?
By Dr. Dale A. Robbins
It has been said that the “tongue” is one of the most exercised muscles of our body. It has been estimated that in a typical week, the average person will speak enough words to fill a 500 page book! However, for the Christian, the use of the tongue must be a matter of careful forethought and discipline. The Bible warns that believers who do not bring restraint to their tongue and speech have been deceived — and without such control over their words, their religious acts are worthless and hypocritical. “If anyone among you thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this one’s religion is useless” (James 1:26). It is a deception for any of us to think that Jesus can be Lord over our life, without also becoming Lord over our tongue.
The reference to a “bridle” in the previous verse is the leather harness and bit placed in a horse’s mouth to control it. In the same manner, Christians must allow the Holy Spirit to bridle their tongue, and bring restraint to their words. David used a similar device as a metaphor to describe his tight control on his mouth to avoid sinning with his tongue, especially when the ungodly were around, where it’s easy to develop a critical tongue, or pick up their bad tongue habits, such as profanity. “I will guard my ways, Lest I sin with my tongue; I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me” (Psalms 39:1).
Hypocrisy of the Tongue
Elsewhere, James gave a warning of the evil poison of the tongue. He described some who try to use their tongue as praise and blessing to God, then turn around to use their tongue to speak evil of one another. “With it we bless our God and Father, and with it rue curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so” (James 3:9-10). We cannot use our tongue to curse and bad-mouth our brethren, then continue “business as usual” with our relationship with God. The Bible says that such tongue behavior is characteristic of hypocrites. “The hypocrite with his mouth destroys his neighbor... “(Prov. 11:9).
Along this same vein, the psalmist warned that the wicked who use their mouth for evil and who speak against their brethren, violate the sacredness of God’s covenant and forfeit their right to use that same mouth as a vessel of God’s Holy Word and promise. Paraphrased, the passage says, “What right do you have to use your mouth to declare my word and promises? You have used your mouth for evil and deceitfulness, to bad-mouth and slander your brethren” (Psa. 50:16-22).
Mouth sins are not Trivial
Unfortunately, mouth sins have somehow been domesticated and entertained by the modern church. Gossip, backbiting, and slander have become viewed as “naughty” little habits that aren’t really so serious. However, when Paul wrote to the church at Rome he sternly contended that gossips, slanderers, and bad-mouthers were in the same league as murderers, sexual perverts, and haters of God. Furthermore, he said such sins are worthy of a death sentence (Rom. 1:28-32).
Some believers have experienced problems and misfortune, or fail to get answers to their prayers, because of their mouth sins. Using their tongue to ridicule, gossip about, or to slander their brothers and sisters is clearly sin — and as we know, unrepentant sin cuts off the flow of God’s answers to their prayers. “If I regard iniquity in my heart, The Lord will not hear” (Psa 66:18). Those who have mouth problems are destined to experience much trouble in their life and will not find it easy to obtain God’s help with their problems. Satan takes advantage of those whose mouths are undisciplined and that are used wickedly. “Whoever guards his mouth and tongue Keeps his soul from troubles” (Prov. 21:23).
The Bible teaches that they who desire to dwell in the presence of God, to experience His blessings, are those who will live righteously and who will not backbite or badmouth their neighbor. “LORD, who may abide in Your tabernacle a Who may dwell in Your holy hill? He who walks uprightly, And works righteousness, And speaks the truth in his heart; He who does not backbite with his tongue, Nor does evil to his neighbor, Nor does he take up a reproach against his friend” (Psa. 15:1-3). Furthermore, God promises a long, blessed life to those who keep their tongue from evil. “Who is the man who desires life, And loves many days, that he may see good? Keep your tongue from evil, And your lips from speaking deceit” (Psa. 34:12-13).
Accountable for all our Words
Jesus warned that our words are so important that they will actually determine our condemnation or justification. He said we will be held responsible for all our words, even our careless, idle words. “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matt. 12:36-37).
Elsewhere, Paul cautioned believers to disallow any corrupt or worthless talk to come from our mouth. Only those things which lift-up, encourage, and are gracious should be expressed to others. “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers” (Eph. 4:29).
Obscenities, profanity, cursing, dirty jokes, or making fun of others is not something that should ever be found in the mouth of a believer. “Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving” (Eph. 5:4 NIV).
Confess and forsake Sin
Thank God there is a remedy for mouth sins. His grace and forgiveness is available for all manner of sin, whatever it may be. Jesus will forgive all sins that we confess to Him (1 John 1:9) — but we must also “forsake” them. “He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy” (Prov. 28:13).
The scriptures tell us to “repent” of sin (Rev. 3:19), that is to “turn away” from sinful behavior. True repentance means that we will make every effort not to repeat our former sins and will seek to walk in the nature of Christ. Since mouth sins really originate in the heart (Matt. 12:34), repentance requires a change of attitude within. Such was David’s desire in his repentant prayer. “Hide Your face from my sins, And blot out all my iniquities. Create in me a clean heart, 0 God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me” (Psa. 51:9-10).
If you realize that your tongue is out of control, seek His forgiveness and allow Him to change the attitude of your heart and your mouth, so they will be pleasing to Him. “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, 0 LORD, my strength and my Redeemer” (Psa. 19:14).
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This article (VL-132) is copyrighted © by Dale A. Robbins, 1990, and is a publication of Victorious Publications, Grass Valley, CA 95949. Unless otherwise stated, all scripture references were taken from The New King James Bible, © Thomas Nelson Inc., 1982. You may download this article for personal use as long as you retain credit to the author. Obtain permission before reproducing copies for any reason, by filling out our simple permission form. This writing is also available as an attractive tri-fold pamphlet, which can be downloaded for reproduction from our Online Catalog. For media reproduction rights, or to obtain quantities of this title in other formats, email us.
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By Dr. Dale A. Robbins
It has been said that the “tongue” is one of the most exercised muscles of our body. It has been estimated that in a typical week, the average person will speak enough words to fill a 500 page book! However, for the Christian, the use of the tongue must be a matter of careful forethought and discipline. The Bible warns that believers who do not bring restraint to their tongue and speech have been deceived — and without such control over their words, their religious acts are worthless and hypocritical. “If anyone among you thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this one’s religion is useless” (James 1:26). It is a deception for any of us to think that Jesus can be Lord over our life, without also becoming Lord over our tongue.
The reference to a “bridle” in the previous verse is the leather harness and bit placed in a horse’s mouth to control it. In the same manner, Christians must allow the Holy Spirit to bridle their tongue, and bring restraint to their words. David used a similar device as a metaphor to describe his tight control on his mouth to avoid sinning with his tongue, especially when the ungodly were around, where it’s easy to develop a critical tongue, or pick up their bad tongue habits, such as profanity. “I will guard my ways, Lest I sin with my tongue; I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me” (Psalms 39:1).
Hypocrisy of the Tongue
Elsewhere, James gave a warning of the evil poison of the tongue. He described some who try to use their tongue as praise and blessing to God, then turn around to use their tongue to speak evil of one another. “With it we bless our God and Father, and with it rue curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so” (James 3:9-10). We cannot use our tongue to curse and bad-mouth our brethren, then continue “business as usual” with our relationship with God. The Bible says that such tongue behavior is characteristic of hypocrites. “The hypocrite with his mouth destroys his neighbor... “(Prov. 11:9).
Along this same vein, the psalmist warned that the wicked who use their mouth for evil and who speak against their brethren, violate the sacredness of God’s covenant and forfeit their right to use that same mouth as a vessel of God’s Holy Word and promise. Paraphrased, the passage says, “What right do you have to use your mouth to declare my word and promises? You have used your mouth for evil and deceitfulness, to bad-mouth and slander your brethren” (Psa. 50:16-22).
Mouth sins are not Trivial
Unfortunately, mouth sins have somehow been domesticated and entertained by the modern church. Gossip, backbiting, and slander have become viewed as “naughty” little habits that aren’t really so serious. However, when Paul wrote to the church at Rome he sternly contended that gossips, slanderers, and bad-mouthers were in the same league as murderers, sexual perverts, and haters of God. Furthermore, he said such sins are worthy of a death sentence (Rom. 1:28-32).
Some believers have experienced problems and misfortune, or fail to get answers to their prayers, because of their mouth sins. Using their tongue to ridicule, gossip about, or to slander their brothers and sisters is clearly sin — and as we know, unrepentant sin cuts off the flow of God’s answers to their prayers. “If I regard iniquity in my heart, The Lord will not hear” (Psa 66:18). Those who have mouth problems are destined to experience much trouble in their life and will not find it easy to obtain God’s help with their problems. Satan takes advantage of those whose mouths are undisciplined and that are used wickedly. “Whoever guards his mouth and tongue Keeps his soul from troubles” (Prov. 21:23).
The Bible teaches that they who desire to dwell in the presence of God, to experience His blessings, are those who will live righteously and who will not backbite or badmouth their neighbor. “LORD, who may abide in Your tabernacle a Who may dwell in Your holy hill? He who walks uprightly, And works righteousness, And speaks the truth in his heart; He who does not backbite with his tongue, Nor does evil to his neighbor, Nor does he take up a reproach against his friend” (Psa. 15:1-3). Furthermore, God promises a long, blessed life to those who keep their tongue from evil. “Who is the man who desires life, And loves many days, that he may see good? Keep your tongue from evil, And your lips from speaking deceit” (Psa. 34:12-13).
Accountable for all our Words
Jesus warned that our words are so important that they will actually determine our condemnation or justification. He said we will be held responsible for all our words, even our careless, idle words. “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matt. 12:36-37).
Elsewhere, Paul cautioned believers to disallow any corrupt or worthless talk to come from our mouth. Only those things which lift-up, encourage, and are gracious should be expressed to others. “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers” (Eph. 4:29).
Obscenities, profanity, cursing, dirty jokes, or making fun of others is not something that should ever be found in the mouth of a believer. “Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving” (Eph. 5:4 NIV).
Confess and forsake Sin
Thank God there is a remedy for mouth sins. His grace and forgiveness is available for all manner of sin, whatever it may be. Jesus will forgive all sins that we confess to Him (1 John 1:9) — but we must also “forsake” them. “He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy” (Prov. 28:13).
The scriptures tell us to “repent” of sin (Rev. 3:19), that is to “turn away” from sinful behavior. True repentance means that we will make every effort not to repeat our former sins and will seek to walk in the nature of Christ. Since mouth sins really originate in the heart (Matt. 12:34), repentance requires a change of attitude within. Such was David’s desire in his repentant prayer. “Hide Your face from my sins, And blot out all my iniquities. Create in me a clean heart, 0 God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me” (Psa. 51:9-10).
If you realize that your tongue is out of control, seek His forgiveness and allow Him to change the attitude of your heart and your mouth, so they will be pleasing to Him. “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, 0 LORD, my strength and my Redeemer” (Psa. 19:14).
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This article (VL-132) is copyrighted © by Dale A. Robbins, 1990, and is a publication of Victorious Publications, Grass Valley, CA 95949. Unless otherwise stated, all scripture references were taken from The New King James Bible, © Thomas Nelson Inc., 1982. You may download this article for personal use as long as you retain credit to the author. Obtain permission before reproducing copies for any reason, by filling out our simple permission form. This writing is also available as an attractive tri-fold pamphlet, which can be downloaded for reproduction from our Online Catalog. For media reproduction rights, or to obtain quantities of this title in other formats, email us.
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married to the ministry
In the 21st century, whether the job is evangelism or social outreach, women missionaries are essential to cross-cultural work. Who has not heard of Lottie Moon, Gladys Aylward, Elisabeth Elliott, Mother Teresa, and many others? Yet when the "modern missionary movement" began, many people considered pioneer mission work too dangerous for women. Throughout the history of Christianity, the typical missionary had been a celibate male.
Adoniram Judson.boarded with the family of John Hasseltine, a deacon at the local host church. As tradition has it, Hasseltine's daughter Ann waited on the table and caught Adoniram's eye.
Her accomplishments were so phenomenal that she set high standards for future women missionaries to come—and proved for all time that women belonged in the mission field as much as men.
The urge to be useful
Ann began a spiritual struggle against worldliness and gaiety that lasted for several weeks. education for women should be geared toward making them of service to others, rather than transmitting ornamental accomplishments that served merely to assist them in finding husbands. Ann was struck by the sinfulness and futility of a life devoted to herself, and she decided to seek a life of "usefulness."
"When reading Scripture, sermons, or other works, if she met with any sentiment or doctrine, which seemed dark and intricate, she would mark it, and beg the first clergyman who called at her father's to elucidate and explain it."
Seeking usefulness, she went out into the world to teach young children and soon gained a reputation for helping to bring her pupils to the point of Christian decision.
Married to the ministry
After Adoniram Judson met Ann at her father's house in Bradford, he proposed marriage to her by letter. But Ann was unable to answer him immediately—not only because she barely knew him, but because she realized she would be marrying not only a man, but a vocation.
She wrote in her diary on September 10, 1810: "An opportunity has been presented to me, of spending my days among the heathen, attempting to persuade them to receive the Gospel. Were I convinced of its being a call from God, and that it would be more pleasing to him, for me to spend my life in this way than in any other, I think I should be willing to relinquish every earthly object, and, in full view of dangers and hardships, give myself up to the great work."
For two months she wrestled over feelings of religious duty, her attachment to her family, and her dread of suffering alone in a foreign land. Despite opposition from friends who deemed missions a "wild, romantic undertaking," she ultimately concluded that marriage to Judson represented God's will for her life: "O, if he [God] will condescend to make me useful in promoting his kingdom, I care not where I perform his work, nor how hard it be. Behold, the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word."
In an age when women's employment opportunities were limited, marriage to a minister was the surest path to Christian service, allowing evangelical women to act as associates of their clergy husbands in ministry directed toward women. The foreign mission movement was on the cutting edge of this development in women's ministry. By marrying a missionary, Ann Hasseltine legitimated the role of the missionary wife as a "calling." With her success, other women could hope for marriage to a missionary as a solution to their own vocational desires to serve in an arena wider than small-town New England.
A new vision for women
The revolutionary public justification for including women in the foreign mission enterprise was to reach the otherwise unreachable women and children, since men would have little access to them in the gender-segregated societies of the East. The role of the missionary wives, therefore, went far beyond acting as traditional helpmeets for their husbands.
On March 14, 1812, Ann Judson wrote on shipboard bound for India, "I desire no higher enjoyment in this life, than to be instrumental of leading some poor, ignorant heathen females, to the knowledge of the Saviour. To have a female praying society, consisting of those who were once in heathen darkness, is what my heart earnestly pants after, and makes a constant subject of prayer. Resolved to keep this in view, as one principal object of my life."
From the beginning, women had to be pioneers of mission method every bit as much as their husbands. Ann's own goals for mission were shaped by her previous employment as a schoolteacher. While in America, she had found that conversion often took place in the context of revivals in school under the influence of a Christian instructor. Ann's hunch that teaching would be an appropriate forum for women's missionary work was confirmed when she visited the school for mission children run by the Baptist wives in Calcutta, where the Judsons stayed when they first arrived.
In a letter to her sisters in 1812, she articulated her first reflections on a concrete mission method for women: "Good female schools are extremely needed in this country. I hope no Missionary will ever come out here without a wife, as she, in her sphere, can be equally useful with her husband."
The many roles of Ann Judson
Once in Burma, Adoniram spent all day in language study in view of his central role as translator of the Bible into Burmese. Ann was left to manage the family and household matters and so could not begin language study until 10:00 each morning. She endured constant interruptions, especially after the birth of their first child in 1815. But by handling all the household affairs, Ann Judson used Burmese until her spoken language was better than her husband's.
As soon as possible, Ann gathered together a group of female inquirers into a Sabbath Society where she read the Bible to them and tried to tell them about God. While Adoniram discussed religion with the men, Ann met with the women, visiting, praying, and talking with them. She also visited the viceroy's wife regularly, in hopes that making friends in high places might someday reap benefits to the mission.
Ann assisted Adoniram in his literary work by translating several tracts, as well as the books of Daniel and Jonah, into Burmese. She also wrote a catechism in Burmese. In 1817, she became interested in the many Siamese (Thai) in Rangoon and began to study their language. She became the first Protestant to translate any of the Scriptures into Siamese with her translation of the Gospel of Matthew in 1819. She also translated the Burmese catechism and a tract into Siamese and endeavored to introduce Westerners to Siamese religious writings by translating a Siamese sacred text into English.
In 1822, her health broken, Ann returned to the United States for a rest. While in America, she wrote A Particular Relation of the American Baptist Mission to the Burman Empire, one of the first published accounts of an American foreign mission written by a missionary. Ann planned to use the proceeds to redeem female children who were sold as slaves, to educate them, and so to convince the Burmese of the usefulness of female education. After the Judsons moved to the city of Ava in February 1824, Ann began a school for three small girls, supported in part by money from the "Judson Association of Bradford Academy."
It was not her evangelistic and literary accomplishments, however, that made Ann Judson's name a household word in the United States. Rather, it was her status as heroine and savior of her husband during the war that broke out between the British government and the Burmese in May of 1824. After her untimely death, the life of Ann Judson became a stock item of female hagiography across denominational lines. Her courageous and activist career provided an inspirational model for missionary women in the 19th century and continues to do so today.
Dana L. Robert is professor of world Christianity and the history of mission and co-director of the Center for Global Christianity and Mission at Boston University. This article is adapted from her book American Women in Mission (Mercer University Press, 1997).
More than rubies
Widowed twice, Adoniram Judson was blessed with not one but three extraordinary wives. Though Ann was the first and most famous, Sarah and Emily made significant contributions of their own.
Sarah Boardman Judson (1803-1845)
Sarah Hall discerned a call to missions as a teenager and longed to follow in the footsteps of her heroine, Ann Judson. When the Massachusetts Baptist Missionary Society leaders learned of her interest in Burma, they arranged for Sarah to meet George Boardman, who also wanted to serve there. The couple sailed one week after their wedding in 1824. Two of their three children died in infancy, and George himself died from lung problems in 1831. Normally, a widowed missionary wife would have returned to America, but the 28-year-old Sarah chose to stay at the encouragement of Adoniram Judson, also recently widowed. She boldly took her husband's place making evangelistic tours through remote jungles and preaching the gospel to the Karen people, who revered her, as well as supervising the mission schools.
After her marriage to Judson in 1834, Sarah balanced the challenges of a growing family with mission leadership responsibilities and linguistic work, proving herself to be a brilliant translator and writer. Her translation of The Pilgrim's Progress into Burmese is still used today. She also translated the New Testament into Peguan and helped Judson with his translation work as well. Adoniram was delighted with her "affectionate, amiable, pious spirit," telling her in 1839, "You know I love you more than all the world beside."
Illness forced Sarah to return to America for rest in 1844. She died on the voyage. Her life had been a powerful response to the plea in the last line of a poem she wrote many years before: "Christians! Christians! Come and help us, ere we lie beneath the sod." Sarah's humble personality, courage, and willingness to proclaim the gospel through both the spoken and written word made her a memorable missionary.
Emily Chubbuck Judson (1817-1854)
Judson wrote in a letter after Sarah's death, "I hope I feel thankful to God that he has granted me, during my pilgrimage, the society of two of the most excellent women and best wives that ever man was blessed with." Little did he know then that his remaining years on earth would be graced by a third.
Born into poverty, Emily Chubbuck helped support her family by writing under the alias "Fanny Forrester." As her work gained national recognition, she earned a good living by writing poetry, popular fiction, biographical sketches, articles, and Sunday school material. Adoniram Judson, struck by her potential, challenged her to write on "more worthy" subjects.
Like Sarah, Emily's interest in missions had been sparked by reading about Ann Judson; marriage to a missionary hero like Adoniram was a dream come true. As the third Mrs. Judson, Emily lovingly cared for her new stepchildren and gave birth to a daughter of her own, Emily Frances. Despite health problems, she managed to master the Burmese language and brought her keen analytical ability and literary flair to the tasks of composing a biography of Sarah Boardman Judson, translating tracts, and writing Sunday school materials.
After Adoniram died, Emily returned with the children to America, where she supported the family by writing. Her compelling stories of the Judsons' life and work in Burma helped promote the cause of missions and keep the memory of Adoniram Judson alive in America.
Four years after Adoniram's death, Emily died of tuberculosis in 1854. In the shadows of Ann and Sarah, the woman Adoniram called "the earthly sun that illumines my present" proved to be her own person, able and willing to serve God in a "worthy" and creative way.
Adoniram Judson.boarded with the family of John Hasseltine, a deacon at the local host church. As tradition has it, Hasseltine's daughter Ann waited on the table and caught Adoniram's eye.
Her accomplishments were so phenomenal that she set high standards for future women missionaries to come—and proved for all time that women belonged in the mission field as much as men.
The urge to be useful
Ann began a spiritual struggle against worldliness and gaiety that lasted for several weeks. education for women should be geared toward making them of service to others, rather than transmitting ornamental accomplishments that served merely to assist them in finding husbands. Ann was struck by the sinfulness and futility of a life devoted to herself, and she decided to seek a life of "usefulness."
"When reading Scripture, sermons, or other works, if she met with any sentiment or doctrine, which seemed dark and intricate, she would mark it, and beg the first clergyman who called at her father's to elucidate and explain it."
Seeking usefulness, she went out into the world to teach young children and soon gained a reputation for helping to bring her pupils to the point of Christian decision.
Married to the ministry
After Adoniram Judson met Ann at her father's house in Bradford, he proposed marriage to her by letter. But Ann was unable to answer him immediately—not only because she barely knew him, but because she realized she would be marrying not only a man, but a vocation.
She wrote in her diary on September 10, 1810: "An opportunity has been presented to me, of spending my days among the heathen, attempting to persuade them to receive the Gospel. Were I convinced of its being a call from God, and that it would be more pleasing to him, for me to spend my life in this way than in any other, I think I should be willing to relinquish every earthly object, and, in full view of dangers and hardships, give myself up to the great work."
For two months she wrestled over feelings of religious duty, her attachment to her family, and her dread of suffering alone in a foreign land. Despite opposition from friends who deemed missions a "wild, romantic undertaking," she ultimately concluded that marriage to Judson represented God's will for her life: "O, if he [God] will condescend to make me useful in promoting his kingdom, I care not where I perform his work, nor how hard it be. Behold, the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word."
In an age when women's employment opportunities were limited, marriage to a minister was the surest path to Christian service, allowing evangelical women to act as associates of their clergy husbands in ministry directed toward women. The foreign mission movement was on the cutting edge of this development in women's ministry. By marrying a missionary, Ann Hasseltine legitimated the role of the missionary wife as a "calling." With her success, other women could hope for marriage to a missionary as a solution to their own vocational desires to serve in an arena wider than small-town New England.
A new vision for women
The revolutionary public justification for including women in the foreign mission enterprise was to reach the otherwise unreachable women and children, since men would have little access to them in the gender-segregated societies of the East. The role of the missionary wives, therefore, went far beyond acting as traditional helpmeets for their husbands.
On March 14, 1812, Ann Judson wrote on shipboard bound for India, "I desire no higher enjoyment in this life, than to be instrumental of leading some poor, ignorant heathen females, to the knowledge of the Saviour. To have a female praying society, consisting of those who were once in heathen darkness, is what my heart earnestly pants after, and makes a constant subject of prayer. Resolved to keep this in view, as one principal object of my life."
From the beginning, women had to be pioneers of mission method every bit as much as their husbands. Ann's own goals for mission were shaped by her previous employment as a schoolteacher. While in America, she had found that conversion often took place in the context of revivals in school under the influence of a Christian instructor. Ann's hunch that teaching would be an appropriate forum for women's missionary work was confirmed when she visited the school for mission children run by the Baptist wives in Calcutta, where the Judsons stayed when they first arrived.
In a letter to her sisters in 1812, she articulated her first reflections on a concrete mission method for women: "Good female schools are extremely needed in this country. I hope no Missionary will ever come out here without a wife, as she, in her sphere, can be equally useful with her husband."
The many roles of Ann Judson
Once in Burma, Adoniram spent all day in language study in view of his central role as translator of the Bible into Burmese. Ann was left to manage the family and household matters and so could not begin language study until 10:00 each morning. She endured constant interruptions, especially after the birth of their first child in 1815. But by handling all the household affairs, Ann Judson used Burmese until her spoken language was better than her husband's.
As soon as possible, Ann gathered together a group of female inquirers into a Sabbath Society where she read the Bible to them and tried to tell them about God. While Adoniram discussed religion with the men, Ann met with the women, visiting, praying, and talking with them. She also visited the viceroy's wife regularly, in hopes that making friends in high places might someday reap benefits to the mission.
Ann assisted Adoniram in his literary work by translating several tracts, as well as the books of Daniel and Jonah, into Burmese. She also wrote a catechism in Burmese. In 1817, she became interested in the many Siamese (Thai) in Rangoon and began to study their language. She became the first Protestant to translate any of the Scriptures into Siamese with her translation of the Gospel of Matthew in 1819. She also translated the Burmese catechism and a tract into Siamese and endeavored to introduce Westerners to Siamese religious writings by translating a Siamese sacred text into English.
In 1822, her health broken, Ann returned to the United States for a rest. While in America, she wrote A Particular Relation of the American Baptist Mission to the Burman Empire, one of the first published accounts of an American foreign mission written by a missionary. Ann planned to use the proceeds to redeem female children who were sold as slaves, to educate them, and so to convince the Burmese of the usefulness of female education. After the Judsons moved to the city of Ava in February 1824, Ann began a school for three small girls, supported in part by money from the "Judson Association of Bradford Academy."
It was not her evangelistic and literary accomplishments, however, that made Ann Judson's name a household word in the United States. Rather, it was her status as heroine and savior of her husband during the war that broke out between the British government and the Burmese in May of 1824. After her untimely death, the life of Ann Judson became a stock item of female hagiography across denominational lines. Her courageous and activist career provided an inspirational model for missionary women in the 19th century and continues to do so today.
Dana L. Robert is professor of world Christianity and the history of mission and co-director of the Center for Global Christianity and Mission at Boston University. This article is adapted from her book American Women in Mission (Mercer University Press, 1997).
More than rubies
Widowed twice, Adoniram Judson was blessed with not one but three extraordinary wives. Though Ann was the first and most famous, Sarah and Emily made significant contributions of their own.
Sarah Boardman Judson (1803-1845)
Sarah Hall discerned a call to missions as a teenager and longed to follow in the footsteps of her heroine, Ann Judson. When the Massachusetts Baptist Missionary Society leaders learned of her interest in Burma, they arranged for Sarah to meet George Boardman, who also wanted to serve there. The couple sailed one week after their wedding in 1824. Two of their three children died in infancy, and George himself died from lung problems in 1831. Normally, a widowed missionary wife would have returned to America, but the 28-year-old Sarah chose to stay at the encouragement of Adoniram Judson, also recently widowed. She boldly took her husband's place making evangelistic tours through remote jungles and preaching the gospel to the Karen people, who revered her, as well as supervising the mission schools.
After her marriage to Judson in 1834, Sarah balanced the challenges of a growing family with mission leadership responsibilities and linguistic work, proving herself to be a brilliant translator and writer. Her translation of The Pilgrim's Progress into Burmese is still used today. She also translated the New Testament into Peguan and helped Judson with his translation work as well. Adoniram was delighted with her "affectionate, amiable, pious spirit," telling her in 1839, "You know I love you more than all the world beside."
Illness forced Sarah to return to America for rest in 1844. She died on the voyage. Her life had been a powerful response to the plea in the last line of a poem she wrote many years before: "Christians! Christians! Come and help us, ere we lie beneath the sod." Sarah's humble personality, courage, and willingness to proclaim the gospel through both the spoken and written word made her a memorable missionary.
Emily Chubbuck Judson (1817-1854)
Judson wrote in a letter after Sarah's death, "I hope I feel thankful to God that he has granted me, during my pilgrimage, the society of two of the most excellent women and best wives that ever man was blessed with." Little did he know then that his remaining years on earth would be graced by a third.
Born into poverty, Emily Chubbuck helped support her family by writing under the alias "Fanny Forrester." As her work gained national recognition, she earned a good living by writing poetry, popular fiction, biographical sketches, articles, and Sunday school material. Adoniram Judson, struck by her potential, challenged her to write on "more worthy" subjects.
Like Sarah, Emily's interest in missions had been sparked by reading about Ann Judson; marriage to a missionary hero like Adoniram was a dream come true. As the third Mrs. Judson, Emily lovingly cared for her new stepchildren and gave birth to a daughter of her own, Emily Frances. Despite health problems, she managed to master the Burmese language and brought her keen analytical ability and literary flair to the tasks of composing a biography of Sarah Boardman Judson, translating tracts, and writing Sunday school materials.
After Adoniram died, Emily returned with the children to America, where she supported the family by writing. Her compelling stories of the Judsons' life and work in Burma helped promote the cause of missions and keep the memory of Adoniram Judson alive in America.
Four years after Adoniram's death, Emily died of tuberculosis in 1854. In the shadows of Ann and Sarah, the woman Adoniram called "the earthly sun that illumines my present" proved to be her own person, able and willing to serve God in a "worthy" and creative way.
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Yesterday at 1:45pm
“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ, that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.” Maya Angelou
It has a beautiful meaning and vision to me personally – and I think to every woman who reads it, for two reasons:
1) Our hearts long to be hidden (safe, adored, secure) in something or someone.
2) And the thought of a man seeking God to know our heart is so tender and precious, and would leave any woman feeling extremely loved and cherished
Yes, our hearts long to be hidden in someone who will protect, love and cherish us immensely for who we are and who we are becoming. But to many women, this quest to be hidden in someone ends in broken hearts, consuming emptiness, and wasted lives.
Take a look at the culture around you. What are most young women “hiding” themselves in? Boyfriends? Appearance? Clothes? Diets? Drugs? Sadly, the answer is yes. Sinful human nature will lead you right to these for satisfaction and happiness. A woman’s identity in this world is based on her man, body, and status. If you don’t have these, you will stand out – in a negative way.
As a result of this unbiblical mindset, young girls are cast into the world scrambling to be hidden in something just to fit in, and to find their own happiness. How cruelly they are deceived when a boyfriend doesn’t make you feel safe, your image changes, and at the end of the day you are still fighting that awful, gnawing hunger for something more in the core of your soul.
Is there a better way? Can women be hidden is something that really satisfies? YES! Woman needs a Savior – and that is Jesus Christ.
“Set your mind on things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.” Col. 3:2-3
Dying to the world and it’s ways, we can set our hearts on Someone else. Self has died – and life is hidden in Christ! This word “hidden” can also be translated “planted”, like a seed that is buried in the earth. How astounding that we who have died to sin are like a seed, dead in itself; yet in Christ hidden and buried we become alive and fruitful! We are safe and secure in the refuge of Christ, and our hearts are finally at peace and satisfied in His transforming and fulfilling presence. Our hearts are hidden in Christ alone and this is where we belong.
But we must be prepared to realize that we will not “fit in” by the world’s standards. This quest for a hidden heart in Christ results in a set apart lifestyle that is lived differently than those who are in the world. We don’t (shouldn’t) act, dress, talk, or behave like the world, because we don’t seek the things the world seeks. We seek that which is above – that is Jesus our Lord and the virtues He bestows.
And what blessings this hidden life brings! We have Christ and His Word to comfort and encourage, urging us to press on, stay hidden in Him, and live for Him; conforming to His image and persevering in our sufferings. It is in this set apart life lived for Jesus alone that we embrace the hidden heart and it’s pleasures forevermore.
Our hearts seek no one else for the happiness we find in Jesus. And if it be His will, He blesses us with an earthly man who can represent to us Christ Himself in many ways. For the woman whose heart is truly hidden in Christ is favored to receive a man seeking after God’s heart in all his ways – including finding her.
May your heart stay hidden in Jesus ~
Yesterday at 1:45pm
“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ, that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.” Maya Angelou
It has a beautiful meaning and vision to me personally – and I think to every woman who reads it, for two reasons:
1) Our hearts long to be hidden (safe, adored, secure) in something or someone.
2) And the thought of a man seeking God to know our heart is so tender and precious, and would leave any woman feeling extremely loved and cherished
Yes, our hearts long to be hidden in someone who will protect, love and cherish us immensely for who we are and who we are becoming. But to many women, this quest to be hidden in someone ends in broken hearts, consuming emptiness, and wasted lives.
Take a look at the culture around you. What are most young women “hiding” themselves in? Boyfriends? Appearance? Clothes? Diets? Drugs? Sadly, the answer is yes. Sinful human nature will lead you right to these for satisfaction and happiness. A woman’s identity in this world is based on her man, body, and status. If you don’t have these, you will stand out – in a negative way.
As a result of this unbiblical mindset, young girls are cast into the world scrambling to be hidden in something just to fit in, and to find their own happiness. How cruelly they are deceived when a boyfriend doesn’t make you feel safe, your image changes, and at the end of the day you are still fighting that awful, gnawing hunger for something more in the core of your soul.
Is there a better way? Can women be hidden is something that really satisfies? YES! Woman needs a Savior – and that is Jesus Christ.
“Set your mind on things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.” Col. 3:2-3
Dying to the world and it’s ways, we can set our hearts on Someone else. Self has died – and life is hidden in Christ! This word “hidden” can also be translated “planted”, like a seed that is buried in the earth. How astounding that we who have died to sin are like a seed, dead in itself; yet in Christ hidden and buried we become alive and fruitful! We are safe and secure in the refuge of Christ, and our hearts are finally at peace and satisfied in His transforming and fulfilling presence. Our hearts are hidden in Christ alone and this is where we belong.
But we must be prepared to realize that we will not “fit in” by the world’s standards. This quest for a hidden heart in Christ results in a set apart lifestyle that is lived differently than those who are in the world. We don’t (shouldn’t) act, dress, talk, or behave like the world, because we don’t seek the things the world seeks. We seek that which is above – that is Jesus our Lord and the virtues He bestows.
And what blessings this hidden life brings! We have Christ and His Word to comfort and encourage, urging us to press on, stay hidden in Him, and live for Him; conforming to His image and persevering in our sufferings. It is in this set apart life lived for Jesus alone that we embrace the hidden heart and it’s pleasures forevermore.
Our hearts seek no one else for the happiness we find in Jesus. And if it be His will, He blesses us with an earthly man who can represent to us Christ Himself in many ways. For the woman whose heart is truly hidden in Christ is favored to receive a man seeking after God’s heart in all his ways – including finding her.
May your heart stay hidden in Jesus ~
A heart's identity
A heart and mind wrestle with the pain
trying to make sense of an occurence which
attacked a body so unprepared for what was
to bring about this shift in the heart's identity
and hopes for what could be, still might be
and may never be
Hope lingers,
though it will not light
as it refuses to look past the present for the fear
that still resides may only serve to douse that flame-
the flame that could light for tomorrow
and shine til forever
a change has taken place, the shift
flows past innocence and swallows forever
as nothing will ever be the same again
fear
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be- brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?....” - Marianne Williamson
character vs attitude
I respect someone with CHARACTER -- this is how a person portrays themself no matter what the situation.
ATTITUDE can change with the situation and it may not always be good.
In my opinion, character is something you cannot change. Just as you grow up to become the person you are, you grow into the character you become.
Attitude it the way you choose to portray yourself. You can choose what your attitude will be, whether it is happy or sad or any other emotion. Unlike character, attitude can be changed. It's just a matter of choosing the way you wish to be.
Hope this helps.
Character is like an operating system of a computer.
We have different operating systems like Mac OS,
Xenix, Linux, Windows etc. The software of one is not
compatible with another.
Every operating system has a set of softwares used for
the need of the hour. They can be word processors,
spread sheets, graphics, photo editing, etc. Attitude
is like the software used for the need of the hour.
A man's character never changes radically from youth to old age. What happens is that circumstances bring out characteristics which have not been obvious to the superficial observer - Hesketh Pearson
Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Of all the properties which belong to honorable men, not one is so highly prized as that of character - Henry Clay
Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries - James A. Michener
A man's character is his fate - Heraclitus
Classifying the mind of people into types can be found in the folk wisdom of most
cultures. A few persons are called calm type, the majorities are known to have
some degree of nervousness, and the remaining are called unsettled type. Every
person is influenced by the three collective psychic energies in varying degrees.
In Sanskrit, Guna means physio-psychological factor. The Upanisads say that Satwa
(order, symmetry, harmony, illumination, knowledge) represents lightness, is
pleasing, and is capable of manifesting others. Rajas (activity, power) is
dynamic, exciting, expansive, but also capable of hurting. Tamas (darkness,
static, inertia, concealing) is characterized by heaviness, and causes obscurity
and sadness. Persons who are mostly influenced by the lower collective psychic
energy are called Tamo Guna (activities of darkness) type persons. They belong to
the unsettled type according to folk wisdom.
Attitude is the differentiating factor used for a specific purpose. Character is
the integrating factor which defines what a person's mind is.
character:
distinctive qualities: the set of qualities that make somebody or something distinctive, especially somebody's qualities of mind and feeling
http://encarta.msn.com/.../...onaryResults.aspx
the qualities distinctive to an individual.
http://www.askoxford.com/concise_oed/character
the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an individual.
http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/dictionary
the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person.
http://www.infoplease.com/dictionary/character
Attitude:
personal view of something: an opinion or general feeling about something
challenging manner: an arrogant or assertive manner or stance assumed as a challenge or for effect
http://encarta.msn.com/.../...onaryResults.aspx
a position assumed for a specific purpose
a mental position with regard to a fact or state
a feeling or emotion toward a fact or state
an organismic state of readiness to respond in a characteristic way to a stimulus (as an object, concept, or situation)
a negative or hostile state of mind
a cool, cocky, defiant, or arrogant manner
http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/dictionary
manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, esp. of the mind - a negative attitude; group attitudes.
Character is what the person is deep inside and as a whole. It flavors everything they do.
Attitude is a surface emotion that can change.
Character is like climate, Attitude is like weather
Attitude is just how you approach a particular situation.
Character is what makes you do the right thing even when no one is looking ... or when no one will find out that you did it.
Someone with character decides when to use his inner strength while someone with attitude separates themself from the rest of the world
Character is a trait, attitude is a behaviour.
From: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/432456
ATTITUDE can change with the situation and it may not always be good.
In my opinion, character is something you cannot change. Just as you grow up to become the person you are, you grow into the character you become.
Attitude it the way you choose to portray yourself. You can choose what your attitude will be, whether it is happy or sad or any other emotion. Unlike character, attitude can be changed. It's just a matter of choosing the way you wish to be.
Hope this helps.
Character is like an operating system of a computer.
We have different operating systems like Mac OS,
Xenix, Linux, Windows etc. The software of one is not
compatible with another.
Every operating system has a set of softwares used for
the need of the hour. They can be word processors,
spread sheets, graphics, photo editing, etc. Attitude
is like the software used for the need of the hour.
A man's character never changes radically from youth to old age. What happens is that circumstances bring out characteristics which have not been obvious to the superficial observer - Hesketh Pearson
Character is higher than intellect. A great soul will be strong to live as well as think
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Of all the properties which belong to honorable men, not one is so highly prized as that of character - Henry Clay
Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries - James A. Michener
A man's character is his fate - Heraclitus
Classifying the mind of people into types can be found in the folk wisdom of most
cultures. A few persons are called calm type, the majorities are known to have
some degree of nervousness, and the remaining are called unsettled type. Every
person is influenced by the three collective psychic energies in varying degrees.
In Sanskrit, Guna means physio-psychological factor. The Upanisads say that Satwa
(order, symmetry, harmony, illumination, knowledge) represents lightness, is
pleasing, and is capable of manifesting others. Rajas (activity, power) is
dynamic, exciting, expansive, but also capable of hurting. Tamas (darkness,
static, inertia, concealing) is characterized by heaviness, and causes obscurity
and sadness. Persons who are mostly influenced by the lower collective psychic
energy are called Tamo Guna (activities of darkness) type persons. They belong to
the unsettled type according to folk wisdom.
Attitude is the differentiating factor used for a specific purpose. Character is
the integrating factor which defines what a person's mind is.
character:
distinctive qualities: the set of qualities that make somebody or something distinctive, especially somebody's qualities of mind and feeling
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the qualities distinctive to an individual.
http://www.askoxford.com/concise_oed/character
the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an individual.
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the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person.
http://www.infoplease.com/dictionary/character
Attitude:
personal view of something: an opinion or general feeling about something
challenging manner: an arrogant or assertive manner or stance assumed as a challenge or for effect
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a position assumed for a specific purpose
a mental position with regard to a fact or state
a feeling or emotion toward a fact or state
an organismic state of readiness to respond in a characteristic way to a stimulus (as an object, concept, or situation)
a negative or hostile state of mind
a cool, cocky, defiant, or arrogant manner
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manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, esp. of the mind - a negative attitude; group attitudes.
Character is what the person is deep inside and as a whole. It flavors everything they do.
Attitude is a surface emotion that can change.
Character is like climate, Attitude is like weather
Attitude is just how you approach a particular situation.
Character is what makes you do the right thing even when no one is looking ... or when no one will find out that you did it.
Someone with character decides when to use his inner strength while someone with attitude separates themself from the rest of the world
Character is a trait, attitude is a behaviour.
From: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/432456
5 love languages
Dr. Gary Chapman, Christian counselor and author of The Five Love Languages writes about the importance of being able to express love to your spouse in a way that your spouse can understand. He calls this type of communicating using the five love languages.
Chapman's Five Emotional Love Languages:
Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.
Quality Time
Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.
Gifts
It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.
Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.
Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.
Determining Your Own Love Language
Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:
How do I express love to others?
What do I complain about the most?
What do I request most often?
Speaking in your spouse's love language probably won't be natural for you. Dr. Chapman says, "We're not talking comfort. We're talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."
Emotional Experiences
The number one emotional experience reported by folks is feeling the presence of God in their lives. The emotional high of being in love (which generally lasts around 2 years) is the second highest emotional experience that people reportedly have.
That is why it can be so difficult to try and talk some sense into someone who is in the midst of falling in love. Chapman stated that obsessive love can render people mentally incompetent. "There's not much difference between being in love and being insane."
Fading Tingle and Empty Love Tanks
After the first or second year of marriage, when the initial "tingle" is starting to fade, many couples find that their "love tanks" are empty. They may have been expressing love for their spouse, but in reality they may have been speaking a different love language. The best way to fill your spouse's love tank is to express love in their love language. Each of us has a primary love language. Usually, couples don't have the same love language.
Tank Check
Dr. Chapman recommends that you have a "Tank Check" 3 nights a week for 3 weeks. Ask one another "How is your love tank tonight?" If, on a scale from zero to ten, it is less than 10, then ask "What can I do to help fill it?" Then do it to the best of your ability.
The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.
Chapman's Five Emotional Love Languages:
Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate's self image and confidence.
Quality Time
Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner's love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.
Gifts
It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don't have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.
Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.
Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your spouse's back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.
Determining Your Own Love Language
Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:
How do I express love to others?
What do I complain about the most?
What do I request most often?
Speaking in your spouse's love language probably won't be natural for you. Dr. Chapman says, "We're not talking comfort. We're talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough."
Emotional Experiences
The number one emotional experience reported by folks is feeling the presence of God in their lives. The emotional high of being in love (which generally lasts around 2 years) is the second highest emotional experience that people reportedly have.
That is why it can be so difficult to try and talk some sense into someone who is in the midst of falling in love. Chapman stated that obsessive love can render people mentally incompetent. "There's not much difference between being in love and being insane."
Fading Tingle and Empty Love Tanks
After the first or second year of marriage, when the initial "tingle" is starting to fade, many couples find that their "love tanks" are empty. They may have been expressing love for their spouse, but in reality they may have been speaking a different love language. The best way to fill your spouse's love tank is to express love in their love language. Each of us has a primary love language. Usually, couples don't have the same love language.
Tank Check
Dr. Chapman recommends that you have a "Tank Check" 3 nights a week for 3 weeks. Ask one another "How is your love tank tonight?" If, on a scale from zero to ten, it is less than 10, then ask "What can I do to help fill it?" Then do it to the best of your ability.
The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.
miss
I do not miss you
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I do not miss you as the darkness envelops
the place in which i stand
nor in seconds of agitation and despair
not when in solitude i seek desperately
to find a trace of your memory
never in the unforgiving depths of my soul
and yet in each light that touches the leaves of the trees,
in the breeze that softly caresses the dusts in the winds,
in the air that passes through my nostrils,
i feel you.
i do not miss you when the mind controls
each fragment of my thoughts
rather in moments of uncertainties,
when the body lies open to inner beauty and acceptance.
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I do not miss you as the darkness envelops
the place in which i stand
nor in seconds of agitation and despair
not when in solitude i seek desperately
to find a trace of your memory
never in the unforgiving depths of my soul
and yet in each light that touches the leaves of the trees,
in the breeze that softly caresses the dusts in the winds,
in the air that passes through my nostrils,
i feel you.
i do not miss you when the mind controls
each fragment of my thoughts
rather in moments of uncertainties,
when the body lies open to inner beauty and acceptance.
Noelle
If
If love could save you
I'd chase it, bottle it and
leave it on your doorstep
I'd suffer any indignation
offer up my respect
hand you the darts
and smile all the same
as you threw them at my heart
If love could save you
I'd never leave your side
I'd lay silent at your insulting
words and pretend I have no pride
I'd be the pawn you seek to own
and freeze happily in your wild stare
If love could save you
I'd count the years, the days, the hours
until I would find you well
it would make the torture bareable
and all the pain worthwhile
If only love could save you
from the heart....
I'd chase it, bottle it and
leave it on your doorstep
I'd suffer any indignation
offer up my respect
hand you the darts
and smile all the same
as you threw them at my heart
If love could save you
I'd never leave your side
I'd lay silent at your insulting
words and pretend I have no pride
I'd be the pawn you seek to own
and freeze happily in your wild stare
If love could save you
I'd count the years, the days, the hours
until I would find you well
it would make the torture bareable
and all the pain worthwhile
If only love could save you
from the heart....
Angels of the midnight choir
protected her in the late night fire
there was no hurt nor drawn out tears
only self preservation, escape from fears
finally free of that indignation
those wild eyes and consternation
she won't look back down in that portal of hell
Seeing clearly now, two lives must dispel
in that mode of fight or flight
those angels led her to freedom that night
those wishes she had were just illusions in the wind
and those words of truth, his actions rescind
from the heart....
Candlelit eyes
Candlelit eyes shake those notions
you've been drinking too much of
that dreamer's love potion
it has made you woozy, and slighty off key
yet, you enjoy those moments
when I'm all you hoped I'd be
from the heart.... Noelle at 1:20 AM 1 comments
Monday, July 6, 2009
power
the power of words hit
so suddenly, you are blindsided
sequence, tone, definition
annotation, whispers, shouts
speech in circles, voices raised
shutting down, deepened wounds
split wide open
fears of now, then, and
maybe when lead to giving up,
giving in, sad departures leaves
lonely fools, unable to escape
the pain that rules
from the heart....
Oscar Wilde
In my opinion, Oscar Wilde is very cynical, he despised marriage and Christianity, Suddenly, it brought something to my mind, when one lives in a "perfect world", he has seen the true mirage if it. Instead of admiring or fascinated, one becomes pessimistic and unbelieving. He was a true philosopher at heart. Some of his quotes are hilarious and struck a chord with my heart. I enjoyed it.
"A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything but the value of nothing."
"A little sincerity is a dangerous thing, and a great deal of it is absolutely fatal."
"A man can't be too careful in the choice of his enemies."
"A man's face is his autobiography. A woman's face is her work of fiction."
"A poet can survive everything but a misprint."
"A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it."
"A true friend stabs you in the front."
"A work of art is the unique result of a unique temperament."
"Ah, well, then I suppose I shall have to die beyond my means."
"Alas, I am dying beyond my means."
"All art is quite useless."
"All bad poetry springs from genuine feeling."
"All that I desire to point out is the general principle that life imitates art far more than art imitates life."
"All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his."
"Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much."
"Ambition is the germ from which all growth of nobleness proceeds."
"Ambition is the last refuge of the failure."
"America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between."
"An idea that is not dangerous is unworthy of being called an idea at all."
"Arguments are extremely vulgar, for everyone in good society holds exactly the same opinion."
"Arguments are to be avoided: they are always vulgar and often convincing."
"Art is the most intense mode of individualism that the world has known."
"As long as a woman can look ten years younger than her own daughter, she is perfectly satisfied."
"As long as war is regarded as wicked, it will always have its fascination. When it is looked upon as vulgar, it will cease to be popular."
"As yet, Bernard Shaw hasn't become prominent enough to have any enemies, but none of his friends like him."
"At 46 one must be a miser; only have time for essentials."
"Beauty is a form of genius - is higher, indeed, than genius, as it needs no explanation. It is of the great facts in the world like sunlight, or springtime, or the reflection in dark water of that silver shell we call the moon."
"Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship."
"Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same."
"Biography lends to death a new terror."
"By giving us the opinions of the uneducated, journalism keeps us in touch with the ignorance of the community."
"Charity creates a multitude of sins."
"Children begin by loving their parents; after a time they judge them; rarely, if ever, do they forgive them."
"Conscience and cowardice are really the same things. Conscience is the trade-name of the firm. That is all."
"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative."
"Consistency is the last resort of the unimaginative."
"Conversation about the weather is the last refuge of the unimaginative."
"Deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance."
"Democracy means simply the bludgeoning of the people by the people for the people."
"Do you really think it is weakness that yields to temptation? I tell you that there are terrible temptations which it requires strength, strength and courage to yield to."
"Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught."
"Every portrait that is painted with feeling is a portrait of the artist, not of the sitter."
"Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future."
"Everything popular is wrong."
"Experience is one thing you can't get for nothing."
"Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes."
"Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months."
"Fathers should be neither seen nor heard. That is the only proper basis for family life."
"Hatred is blind, as well as love."
"He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends."
"He lives the poetry that he cannot write. The others write the poetry that they dare not realise."
"He must have a truly romantic nature, for he weeps when there is nothing at all to weep about."
"He was always late on principle, his principle being that punctuality is the thief of time."
"How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being."
"How marriage ruins a man! It is as demoralizing as cigarettes, and far more expensive."
"I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never of any use to oneself."
"I am not young enough to know everything."
"I can resist everything except temptation."
"I choose my friends for their good looks, my acquaintances for their good characters, and my enemies for their intellects. A man cannot be too careful in the choice of his enemies."
"I dislike arguments of any kind. They are always vulgar, and often convincing."
"I have nothing to declare except my genuis."
"I have the simplest tastes. I am always satisfied with the best."
"I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked and being really good all the time. That would be hypocrisy."
"I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train."
"I put all my genius into my life; I put only my talent into my works."
"I regard the theatre as the greatest of all art forms, the most immediate way in which a human being can share with another the sense of what it is to be a human being."
"I see when men love women. They give them but a little of their lives. But women when they love give everything."
"I sometimes think that God in creating man somewhat overestimated his ability."
"I suppose society is wonderfully delightful. To be in it is merely a bore. But to be out of it is simply a tragedy."
"I think that God, in creating man, somewhat overestimated his ability."
"I want my food dead. Not sick, not dying, dead."
"If one cannot enjoy reading a book over and over again, there is no use in reading it at all."
"If one could only teach the English how to talk, and the Irish how to listen, society here would be quite civilized."
"If one plays good music, people don't listen and if one plays bad music people don't talk."
"If there was less sympathy in the world, there would be less trouble in the world."
"If you are not too long, I will wait here for you all my life."
"If you pretend to be good, the world takes you very seriously. If you pretend to be bad, it doesn't. Such is the astounding stupidity of optimism."
"Illusion is the first of all pleasures."
"In all matters of opinion, our adversaries are insane."
"In America the President reigns for four years, and Journalism governs forever and ever."
"In America the young are always ready to give to those who are older than themselves the full benefits of their inexperience."
"In England people actually try to be brilliant at breakfast. That is so dreadful of them! Only dull people are brilliant at breakfast."
"In every first novel the hero is the author as Christ or Faust."
"In married life three is company and two none."
"It is a very sad thing that nowadays there is so little useless information."
"It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious."
"It is an odd thing, but every one who disappears is said to be seen at San Francisco. It must be a delightful city, and possess all the attractions of the next world."
"It is better to be beautiful than to be good. But... it is better to be good than to be ugly."
"It is better to have a permanent income than to be fascinating."
"It is only an auctioneer who can equally and impartially admire all schools of art."
"It is perfectly monstrous the way people go about, nowadays, saying things against one behind one's back that are absolutely and entirely true."
"It is through art, and through art only, that we can realise our perfection."
"It is what you read when you don't have to that determines what you will be when you can't help it."
"Its failings notwithstanding, there is much to be said in favor of journalism in that by giving us the opinion of the uneducated, it keeps us in touch with the ignorance of the community."
"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead."
"Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is far the best ending for one."
"Life imitates art far more than art imitates Life."
"Life is far too important a thing ever to talk seriously about."
"Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not."
"Life is too important to be taken seriously."
"Man is a rational animal who always loses his temper when he is called upon to act in accordance with the dictates of reason."
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth."
"Memory... is the diary that we all carry about with us."
"Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a man's last romance."
"Moderation is a fatal thing. Nothing succeeds like excess."
"Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike."
"Most modern calendars mar the sweet simplicity of our lives by reminding us that each day that passes is the anniversary of some perfectly uninteresting event."
"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation."
"Most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one's mistakes."
"Mrs. Allonby: No man does. That is his."
"Music is the art which is most nigh to tears and memory."
"Music makes one feel so romantic - at least it always gets on one's nerves - which is the same thing nowadays."
"My great mistake, the fault for which I can't forgive myself, is that one day I ceased my obstinate pursuit of my own individuality."
"No great artist ever sees things as they really are. If he did, he would cease to be an artist."
"No man is rich enough to buy back his past."
"No object is so beautiful that, under certain conditions, it will not look ugly."
"No woman should ever be quite accurate about her age. It looks so calculating."
"Nothing can cure the soul but the senses, just as nothing can cure the senses but the soul."
"Nothing is so aggravating than calmness."
"Nothing makes one so vain as being told one is a sinner. Conscience makes egotists of us all."
"Now that the House of Commons is trying to become useful, it does a great deal of harm."
"Nowadays to be intelligible is to be found out."
"Of course America had often been discovered before Columbus, but it had always been hushed up."
"Of course I have played outdoor games. I once played dominoes in an open air cafe in Paris."
"One can survive everything, nowadays, except death, and live down everything except a good reputation."
"One of the many lessons that one learns in prison is, that things are what they are and will be what they will be."
"One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry."
"One should always play fairly when one has the winning cards."
"One's past is what one is. It is the only way by which people should be judged."
"Only the shallow know themselves."
"Ordinary riches can be stolen; real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you."
"Our ambition should be to rule ourselves, the true kingdom for each one of us; and true progress is to know more, and be more, and to do more."
"Patriotism is the virtue of the vicious."
"Perhaps, after all, America never has been discovered. I myself would say that it had merely been detected."
"Pessimist: One who, when he has the choice of two evils, chooses both."
"Please do not shoot the pianist. He is doing his best."
"Questions are never indiscreet, answers sometimes are."
"Self-denial is the shining sore on the leprous body of Christianity."
"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live."
"Seriousness is the only refuge of the shallow."
"She wore far too much rouge last night and not quite enough clothes. That is always a sign of despair in a woman."
"Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go."
"Some of these people need ten years of therapy -ten sentences of mine do not equal ten years of therapy."
"Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result."
"The basis of optimism is sheer terror."
"The books that the world calls immoral are books that show the world its own shame."
"The cynic knows the price of everything and the value of nothing."
"The difference between literature and journalism is that journalism is unreadable and literature is not read."
"The English country gentleman galloping after a fox - The unspeakable in full pursuit of the uneatable."
"The General was essentially a man of peace, except of course in his domestic affairs."
"The good ended happily, and the bad unhappily. That is what fiction means."
"The imagination imitates. It is the critical spirit that creates."
"The man who can dominate a London dinner-table can dominate the world."
"The moment you think you understand a great work of art, it's dead for you."
"The old believe everything, the middle-aged suspect everything, the young know everything."
"The one charm about marriage is that it makes a life of deception absolutely necessary for both parties."
"The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. It is never of any use to oneself."
"The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it... I can resist everything but temptation."
"The past is of no importance. The present is of no importance. It is with the future that we have to deal. For the past is what man should not have been. The present is what man ought not to be. The future is what artists are."
"The public have an insatiable curiosity to know everything. Except what is worth knowing. Journalism, conscious of this, and having tradesman-like habits, supplies their demands."
"The public is wonderfully tolerant. It forgives everything except genius."
"The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple."
"The salesman knows nothing of what he is selling save that he is charging a great deal too much for it."
"The security of Society lies in custom and unconscious instinct, and the basis of the stability of Society, as a healthy organism, is the complete absence of any intelligence amongst its members."
"The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible."
"The truth is rarely pure and never simple."
"The typewriting machine, when played with expression, is no more annoying than the piano when played by a sister or near relation."
"The world has grown suspicious of anything that looks like a happily married life."
"The world is divided into two classes, those who believe the incredible, and those who do the improbable."
"There are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating - people who know absolutely everything, and people who know absolutely nothing."
"There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."
"There is no sin except stupidity."
"There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written, or badly written."
"There is no such thing as an omen. Destiny does not send us heralds. She is too wise or too cruel for that."
"There is nothing in the world like the devotion of a married woman. It is a thing no married man knows anything about."
"There is nothing so difficult to marry as a large nose."
"There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about."
"These days man knows the price of everything, but the value of nothing."
"This suspense is terrible. I hope it will last."
"Those whom the gods love grow young."
"To expect the unexpected shows a thoroughly modern intellect."
"To lose one parent may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness."
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
"To regret one's own experiences is to arrest one's own development. To deny one's own experiences is to put a lie into the lips of one's life. It is no less than a denial of the soul."
"True friends stab you in the front."
"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."
"What we have to do, what at any rate it is our duty to do, is to revive the old art of Lying."
"When a man has once loved a woman he will do anything for her except continue to love her."
"When a woman marries again it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs."
"When good Americans die they go to Paris."
"When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is."
"When the gods wish to punish us they answer our prayers."
"Whenever people agree with me I always feel I must be wrong."
"Who, being loved, is poor?"
"Why was I born with such contemporaries?"
"Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat."
"Women are made to be loved, not understood."
"Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is the difference between the sexes."
"Work is the curse of the drinking classes."
"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, by each let this be heard, some do it with a bitter look, some with a flattering word. The coward does it with a kiss, the brave man with a sword!"
"A little sincerity is a dangerous thing, and a great deal of it is absolutely fatal."
"A man can't be too careful in the choice of his enemies."
"A man's face is his autobiography. A woman's face is her work of fiction."
"A poet can survive everything but a misprint."
"A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it."
"A true friend stabs you in the front."
"A work of art is the unique result of a unique temperament."
"Ah, well, then I suppose I shall have to die beyond my means."
"Alas, I am dying beyond my means."
"All art is quite useless."
"All bad poetry springs from genuine feeling."
"All that I desire to point out is the general principle that life imitates art far more than art imitates life."
"All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his."
"Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much."
"Ambition is the germ from which all growth of nobleness proceeds."
"Ambition is the last refuge of the failure."
"America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between."
"An idea that is not dangerous is unworthy of being called an idea at all."
"Arguments are extremely vulgar, for everyone in good society holds exactly the same opinion."
"Arguments are to be avoided: they are always vulgar and often convincing."
"Art is the most intense mode of individualism that the world has known."
"As long as a woman can look ten years younger than her own daughter, she is perfectly satisfied."
"As long as war is regarded as wicked, it will always have its fascination. When it is looked upon as vulgar, it will cease to be popular."
"As yet, Bernard Shaw hasn't become prominent enough to have any enemies, but none of his friends like him."
"At 46 one must be a miser; only have time for essentials."
"Beauty is a form of genius - is higher, indeed, than genius, as it needs no explanation. It is of the great facts in the world like sunlight, or springtime, or the reflection in dark water of that silver shell we call the moon."
"Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship."
"Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same."
"Biography lends to death a new terror."
"By giving us the opinions of the uneducated, journalism keeps us in touch with the ignorance of the community."
"Charity creates a multitude of sins."
"Children begin by loving their parents; after a time they judge them; rarely, if ever, do they forgive them."
"Conscience and cowardice are really the same things. Conscience is the trade-name of the firm. That is all."
"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative."
"Consistency is the last resort of the unimaginative."
"Conversation about the weather is the last refuge of the unimaginative."
"Deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance."
"Democracy means simply the bludgeoning of the people by the people for the people."
"Do you really think it is weakness that yields to temptation? I tell you that there are terrible temptations which it requires strength, strength and courage to yield to."
"Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught."
"Every portrait that is painted with feeling is a portrait of the artist, not of the sitter."
"Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future."
"Everything popular is wrong."
"Experience is one thing you can't get for nothing."
"Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes."
"Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months."
"Fathers should be neither seen nor heard. That is the only proper basis for family life."
"Hatred is blind, as well as love."
"He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends."
"He lives the poetry that he cannot write. The others write the poetry that they dare not realise."
"He must have a truly romantic nature, for he weeps when there is nothing at all to weep about."
"He was always late on principle, his principle being that punctuality is the thief of time."
"How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being."
"How marriage ruins a man! It is as demoralizing as cigarettes, and far more expensive."
"I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never of any use to oneself."
"I am not young enough to know everything."
"I can resist everything except temptation."
"I choose my friends for their good looks, my acquaintances for their good characters, and my enemies for their intellects. A man cannot be too careful in the choice of his enemies."
"I dislike arguments of any kind. They are always vulgar, and often convincing."
"I have nothing to declare except my genuis."
"I have the simplest tastes. I am always satisfied with the best."
"I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked and being really good all the time. That would be hypocrisy."
"I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train."
"I put all my genius into my life; I put only my talent into my works."
"I regard the theatre as the greatest of all art forms, the most immediate way in which a human being can share with another the sense of what it is to be a human being."
"I see when men love women. They give them but a little of their lives. But women when they love give everything."
"I sometimes think that God in creating man somewhat overestimated his ability."
"I suppose society is wonderfully delightful. To be in it is merely a bore. But to be out of it is simply a tragedy."
"I think that God, in creating man, somewhat overestimated his ability."
"I want my food dead. Not sick, not dying, dead."
"If one cannot enjoy reading a book over and over again, there is no use in reading it at all."
"If one could only teach the English how to talk, and the Irish how to listen, society here would be quite civilized."
"If one plays good music, people don't listen and if one plays bad music people don't talk."
"If there was less sympathy in the world, there would be less trouble in the world."
"If you are not too long, I will wait here for you all my life."
"If you pretend to be good, the world takes you very seriously. If you pretend to be bad, it doesn't. Such is the astounding stupidity of optimism."
"Illusion is the first of all pleasures."
"In all matters of opinion, our adversaries are insane."
"In America the President reigns for four years, and Journalism governs forever and ever."
"In America the young are always ready to give to those who are older than themselves the full benefits of their inexperience."
"In England people actually try to be brilliant at breakfast. That is so dreadful of them! Only dull people are brilliant at breakfast."
"In every first novel the hero is the author as Christ or Faust."
"In married life three is company and two none."
"It is a very sad thing that nowadays there is so little useless information."
"It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious."
"It is an odd thing, but every one who disappears is said to be seen at San Francisco. It must be a delightful city, and possess all the attractions of the next world."
"It is better to be beautiful than to be good. But... it is better to be good than to be ugly."
"It is better to have a permanent income than to be fascinating."
"It is only an auctioneer who can equally and impartially admire all schools of art."
"It is perfectly monstrous the way people go about, nowadays, saying things against one behind one's back that are absolutely and entirely true."
"It is through art, and through art only, that we can realise our perfection."
"It is what you read when you don't have to that determines what you will be when you can't help it."
"Its failings notwithstanding, there is much to be said in favor of journalism in that by giving us the opinion of the uneducated, it keeps us in touch with the ignorance of the community."
"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead."
"Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is far the best ending for one."
"Life imitates art far more than art imitates Life."
"Life is far too important a thing ever to talk seriously about."
"Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not."
"Life is too important to be taken seriously."
"Man is a rational animal who always loses his temper when he is called upon to act in accordance with the dictates of reason."
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth."
"Memory... is the diary that we all carry about with us."
"Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a man's last romance."
"Moderation is a fatal thing. Nothing succeeds like excess."
"Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike."
"Most modern calendars mar the sweet simplicity of our lives by reminding us that each day that passes is the anniversary of some perfectly uninteresting event."
"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation."
"Most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one's mistakes."
"Mrs. Allonby: No man does. That is his."
"Music is the art which is most nigh to tears and memory."
"Music makes one feel so romantic - at least it always gets on one's nerves - which is the same thing nowadays."
"My great mistake, the fault for which I can't forgive myself, is that one day I ceased my obstinate pursuit of my own individuality."
"No great artist ever sees things as they really are. If he did, he would cease to be an artist."
"No man is rich enough to buy back his past."
"No object is so beautiful that, under certain conditions, it will not look ugly."
"No woman should ever be quite accurate about her age. It looks so calculating."
"Nothing can cure the soul but the senses, just as nothing can cure the senses but the soul."
"Nothing is so aggravating than calmness."
"Nothing makes one so vain as being told one is a sinner. Conscience makes egotists of us all."
"Now that the House of Commons is trying to become useful, it does a great deal of harm."
"Nowadays to be intelligible is to be found out."
"Of course America had often been discovered before Columbus, but it had always been hushed up."
"Of course I have played outdoor games. I once played dominoes in an open air cafe in Paris."
"One can survive everything, nowadays, except death, and live down everything except a good reputation."
"One of the many lessons that one learns in prison is, that things are what they are and will be what they will be."
"One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry."
"One should always play fairly when one has the winning cards."
"One's past is what one is. It is the only way by which people should be judged."
"Only the shallow know themselves."
"Ordinary riches can be stolen; real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you."
"Our ambition should be to rule ourselves, the true kingdom for each one of us; and true progress is to know more, and be more, and to do more."
"Patriotism is the virtue of the vicious."
"Perhaps, after all, America never has been discovered. I myself would say that it had merely been detected."
"Pessimist: One who, when he has the choice of two evils, chooses both."
"Please do not shoot the pianist. He is doing his best."
"Questions are never indiscreet, answers sometimes are."
"Self-denial is the shining sore on the leprous body of Christianity."
"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live."
"Seriousness is the only refuge of the shallow."
"She wore far too much rouge last night and not quite enough clothes. That is always a sign of despair in a woman."
"Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go."
"Some of these people need ten years of therapy -ten sentences of mine do not equal ten years of therapy."
"Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result."
"The basis of optimism is sheer terror."
"The books that the world calls immoral are books that show the world its own shame."
"The cynic knows the price of everything and the value of nothing."
"The difference between literature and journalism is that journalism is unreadable and literature is not read."
"The English country gentleman galloping after a fox - The unspeakable in full pursuit of the uneatable."
"The General was essentially a man of peace, except of course in his domestic affairs."
"The good ended happily, and the bad unhappily. That is what fiction means."
"The imagination imitates. It is the critical spirit that creates."
"The man who can dominate a London dinner-table can dominate the world."
"The moment you think you understand a great work of art, it's dead for you."
"The old believe everything, the middle-aged suspect everything, the young know everything."
"The one charm about marriage is that it makes a life of deception absolutely necessary for both parties."
"The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. It is never of any use to oneself."
"The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it... I can resist everything but temptation."
"The past is of no importance. The present is of no importance. It is with the future that we have to deal. For the past is what man should not have been. The present is what man ought not to be. The future is what artists are."
"The public have an insatiable curiosity to know everything. Except what is worth knowing. Journalism, conscious of this, and having tradesman-like habits, supplies their demands."
"The public is wonderfully tolerant. It forgives everything except genius."
"The pure and simple truth is rarely pure and never simple."
"The salesman knows nothing of what he is selling save that he is charging a great deal too much for it."
"The security of Society lies in custom and unconscious instinct, and the basis of the stability of Society, as a healthy organism, is the complete absence of any intelligence amongst its members."
"The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible."
"The truth is rarely pure and never simple."
"The typewriting machine, when played with expression, is no more annoying than the piano when played by a sister or near relation."
"The world has grown suspicious of anything that looks like a happily married life."
"The world is divided into two classes, those who believe the incredible, and those who do the improbable."
"There are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating - people who know absolutely everything, and people who know absolutely nothing."
"There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."
"There is no sin except stupidity."
"There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written, or badly written."
"There is no such thing as an omen. Destiny does not send us heralds. She is too wise or too cruel for that."
"There is nothing in the world like the devotion of a married woman. It is a thing no married man knows anything about."
"There is nothing so difficult to marry as a large nose."
"There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about."
"These days man knows the price of everything, but the value of nothing."
"This suspense is terrible. I hope it will last."
"Those whom the gods love grow young."
"To expect the unexpected shows a thoroughly modern intellect."
"To lose one parent may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness."
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
"To regret one's own experiences is to arrest one's own development. To deny one's own experiences is to put a lie into the lips of one's life. It is no less than a denial of the soul."
"True friends stab you in the front."
"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."
"What we have to do, what at any rate it is our duty to do, is to revive the old art of Lying."
"When a man has once loved a woman he will do anything for her except continue to love her."
"When a woman marries again it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again, it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs."
"When good Americans die they go to Paris."
"When I was young I thought that money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old I know that it is."
"When the gods wish to punish us they answer our prayers."
"Whenever people agree with me I always feel I must be wrong."
"Who, being loved, is poor?"
"Why was I born with such contemporaries?"
"Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat."
"Women are made to be loved, not understood."
"Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is the difference between the sexes."
"Work is the curse of the drinking classes."
"Yet each man kills the thing he loves, by each let this be heard, some do it with a bitter look, some with a flattering word. The coward does it with a kiss, the brave man with a sword!"
E=mc 2
This is a man crazy and genius at the same time, so i think.
He was a man lost in his formula and beaming over the moon world.
He is a philosopher, inspiring people with his words and his creations.
He was a man lost in his formula and beaming over the moon world.
He is a philosopher, inspiring people with his words and his creations.
A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be.
A perfection of means, and confusion of aims, seems to be our main problem.
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?
A table, a chair, a bowl of fruit and a violin; what else does a man need to be happy?
All religions, arts and sciences are branches of the same tree.
All that is valuable in human society depends upon the opportunity for development accorded the individual.
All these primary impulses, not easily described in words, are the springs of man's actions.
An empty stomach is not a good political adviser.
Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools.
Any fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius - and a lot of courage - to move in the opposite direction.
Any intelligent fool can make things bigger and more complex... It takes a touch of genius - and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction.
Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.
Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking.
Anyone who doesn't take truth seriously in small matters cannot be trusted in large ones either.
Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
As far as I'm concerned, I prefer silent vice to ostentatious virtue.
As far as the laws of mathematics refer to reality, they are not certain, and as far as they are certain, they do not refer to reality.
Before God we are all equally wise - and equally foolish.
Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen.
Concern for man and his fate must always form the chief interest of all technical endeavors. Never forget this in the midst of your diagrams and equations.
Confusion of goals and perfection of means seems, in my opinion, to characterize our age.
Albert Einstein
Do not worry about your difficulties in Mathematics. I can assure you mine are still greater.
Albert Einstein
Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.
Albert Einstein
Everyone should be respected as an individual, but no one idolized.
Albert Einstein
Everything should be as simple as it is, but not simpler.
Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted.
Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.
Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions.
Force always attracts men of low morality.
God always takes the simplest way.
God does not play dice.
God may be subtle, but he isn't plain mean.
Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.
Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead; his eyes are closed.
He who joyfully marches to music in rank and file has already earned my contempt. He has been given a large brain by mistake, since for him the spinal cord would suffice.
Heroism on command, senseless violence, and all the loathsome nonsense that goes by the name of patriotism - how passionately I hate them!
Human beings must have action; and they will make it if they cannot find it.
I am a deeply religious nonbeliever - this is a somewhat new kind of religion.
I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination.
I am not only a pacifist but a militant pacifist. I am willing to fight for peace. Nothing will end war unless the people themselves refuse to go to war.
I believe that a simple and unassuming manner of life is best for everyone, best both for the body and the mind.
I cannot imagine a God who rewards and punishes the objects of his creation and is but a reflection of human frailty.
I do not believe in immortality of the individual, and I consider ethics to be an exclusively human concern with no superhuman authority behind it.
I do not believe in the God of theology who rewards good and punishes evil.
I do not believe that civilization will be wiped out in a war fought with the atomic bomb. Perhaps two-thirds of the people of the earth will be killed.
I have just got a new theory of eternity.
I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.
I know not with what weapons World War III will be fought, but World War IV will be fought with sticks and stones.
I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity.
I never think of the future - it comes soon enough.
I shall never believe that God plays dice with the world.
I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right.
I used to go away for weeks in a state of confusion.
I want to know all Gods thoughts; all the rest are just details.
If people are good only because they fear punishment, and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
If the facts don't fit the theory, change the facts.
If we knew what it was we were doing, it would not be called research, would it?
If you are out to describe the truth, leave elegance to the tailor.
Mother Teresa
Mother Theresa is a great influence in my life.
i still remember in my earlier years in Hope Kuantan where my first powerpoint slide presentation is made based on the quotes of Mother Teresa.
The hours i spent in preparation gave me the insight of every quote.
The quotes embedded so deep in my heart that they influence the way i react and live.
She was an example i looked up too.
She showed each verse in the bible in her life.
She is a testimony that a believer of Christ should stand firm in the foundation of His Words and stay true to the faith.
No matter how little we are and have, we can do great things from the deepest core in our heart, where the glory of God lies.
Love is the greatest. (She proved to me)
Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.
Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.
Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired.
Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.
Each one of them is Jesus in disguise.
Even the rich are hungry for love, for being cared for, for being wanted, for having someone to call their own.
Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
God doesn't require us to succeed; he only requires that you try.
Good works are links that form a chain of love.
I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world.
I do not pray for success, I ask for faithfulness.
I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.
I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.
I try to give to the poor people for love what the rich could get for money. No, I wouldn't touch a leper for a thousand pounds; yet I willingly cure him for the love of God.
I want you to be concerned about your next door neighbor. Do you know your next door neighbor?
If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.
If we want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.
If you can't feed a hundred people, then feed just one.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
If you want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.
In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.
Intense love does not measure, it just gives.
It is a kingly act to assist the fallen.
It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish.
It is impossible to walk rapidly and be unhappy.
It is not the magnitude of our actions but the amount of love that is put into them that matters.
Jesus said love one another. He didn't say love the whole world.
Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls.
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
Let us more and more insist on raising funds of love, of kindness, of understanding, of peace. Money will come if we seek first the Kingdom of God - the rest will be given.
Let us not be satisfied with just giving money. Money is not enough, money can be got, but they need your hearts to love them. So, spread your love everywhere you go.
Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely and the unwanted according to the graces we have received and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.
Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
Loneliness is the most terrible poverty.
Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do... but how much love we put in that action.
Love begins by taking care of the closest ones - the ones at home.
Many people mistake our work for our vocation. Our vocation is the love of Jesus.
One of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.
Our life of poverty is as necessary as the work itself. Only in heaven will we see how much we owe to the poor for helping us to love God better because of them.
Mother Teresa
Peace begins with a smile.
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.
Sweetest Lord, make me appreciative of the dignity of my high vocation, and its many responsibilities. Never permit me to disgrace it by giving way to coldness, unkindness, or impatience.
The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted.
The greatest destroyer of peace is abortion because if a mother can kill her own child, what is left for me to kill you and you to kill me? There is nothing between.
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
The miracle is not that we do this work, but that we are happy to do it.
The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.
The success of love is in the loving - it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.
Mother Teresa
There are no great things, only small things with great love. Happy are those.
There is always the danger that we may just do the work for the sake of the work. This is where the respect and the love and the devotion come in - that we do it to God, to Christ, and that's why we try to do it as beautifully as possible.
There is more hunger in the world for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.
There must be a reason why some people can afford to live well. They must have worked for it. I only feel angry when I see waste. When I see people throwing away things that we could use.
We are all pencils in the hand of God.
We can do no great things, only small things with great love.
We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls.
We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.
We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.
We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty.
We, the unwilling, led by the unknowing, are doing the impossible for the ungrateful. We have done so much, for so long, with so little, we are now qualified to do anything with nothing.
Words which do not give the light of Christ increase the darkness.
Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.
Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired.
Do not wait for leaders; do it alone, person to person.
Each one of them is Jesus in disguise.
Even the rich are hungry for love, for being cared for, for being wanted, for having someone to call their own.
Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.
God doesn't require us to succeed; he only requires that you try.
Good works are links that form a chain of love.
I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world.
I do not pray for success, I ask for faithfulness.
I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.
I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.
I try to give to the poor people for love what the rich could get for money. No, I wouldn't touch a leper for a thousand pounds; yet I willingly cure him for the love of God.
I want you to be concerned about your next door neighbor. Do you know your next door neighbor?
If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.
If we want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.
If you can't feed a hundred people, then feed just one.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
If you want a love message to be heard, it has got to be sent out. To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.
In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.
Intense love does not measure, it just gives.
It is a kingly act to assist the fallen.
It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish.
It is impossible to walk rapidly and be unhappy.
It is not the magnitude of our actions but the amount of love that is put into them that matters.
Jesus said love one another. He didn't say love the whole world.
Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls.
Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
Let us more and more insist on raising funds of love, of kindness, of understanding, of peace. Money will come if we seek first the Kingdom of God - the rest will be given.
Let us not be satisfied with just giving money. Money is not enough, money can be got, but they need your hearts to love them. So, spread your love everywhere you go.
Let us touch the dying, the poor, the lonely and the unwanted according to the graces we have received and let us not be ashamed or slow to do the humble work.
Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
Loneliness is the most terrible poverty.
Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do... but how much love we put in that action.
Love begins by taking care of the closest ones - the ones at home.
Many people mistake our work for our vocation. Our vocation is the love of Jesus.
One of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.
Our life of poverty is as necessary as the work itself. Only in heaven will we see how much we owe to the poor for helping us to love God better because of them.
Mother Teresa
Peace begins with a smile.
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.
Sweetest Lord, make me appreciative of the dignity of my high vocation, and its many responsibilities. Never permit me to disgrace it by giving way to coldness, unkindness, or impatience.
The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted.
The greatest destroyer of peace is abortion because if a mother can kill her own child, what is left for me to kill you and you to kill me? There is nothing between.
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
The miracle is not that we do this work, but that we are happy to do it.
The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.
The success of love is in the loving - it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.
Mother Teresa
There are no great things, only small things with great love. Happy are those.
There is always the danger that we may just do the work for the sake of the work. This is where the respect and the love and the devotion come in - that we do it to God, to Christ, and that's why we try to do it as beautifully as possible.
There is more hunger in the world for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.
There must be a reason why some people can afford to live well. They must have worked for it. I only feel angry when I see waste. When I see people throwing away things that we could use.
We are all pencils in the hand of God.
We can do no great things, only small things with great love.
We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls.
We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.
We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.
We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty.
We, the unwilling, led by the unknowing, are doing the impossible for the ungrateful. We have done so much, for so long, with so little, we are now qualified to do anything with nothing.
Words which do not give the light of Christ increase the darkness.
MJ
Looking through Michael Jackson's quotes
i see missing pieces in his life
He missed out so much and so many in his life
it reminds us that we should live our life at a normal pace and enjoy whatever the world offers us.
HE HAD everything but when he mentioned about children, there is a certain avare garde of missing out.
And I remember going to the record studio and there was a park across the street and I'd see all the children playing and I would cry because it would make me sad that I would have to work instead.
Because I think every child star suffers through this period because you're not the cute and charming child that you were. You start to grow, and they want to keep you little forever.
Because I wanted to have a place that I could create everything that I that I never had as a child. So, you see rides. You see animals. There's a movie theater.
Because parents have power over children. They feel they have to do what their parents say. But the love of money is the root of all evil. And this is a sweet child. And to see him turn like this, this isn't him. This is not him.
Before I would hurt a child, I would slit my wrists.
But I will never stop helping and loving people the way Jesus said to.
Children show me in their playful smiles the divine in everyone. This simple goodness shines straight from their hearts and only asks to be lived.
Elizabeth Taylor is gorgeous, beautiful, and she still is today, I'm crazy about her.
Everyone who knows me will know the truth, which is that my children come first in my life and that I would never harm any child.
Everything that I love is behind those gates. We have elephants, and giraffes, and crocodiles, and every kind of tigers and lions. And - and we have bus loads of kids, who don't get to see those things. They come up sick children, and enjoy it.
I have a skin disorder that destroys the pigmentation of my skin, it's something that I cannot help, OK?
I just wish I could understand my father.
I love my family very much. I wish I could see them a little more often than I do. But we understand because we're a show business family and we all work.
I rememeber one time we were getting ready to go to South America and everything was packed up and in the car ready to go and I hid and I was crying because I really did not want to go, I wanted to play. I did not want to go.
I was a veteran, before I was a teenager.
I will say again that I have never, and would never, harm a child. It sickens me that people have written untrue things about me.
I'm a black American, I am proud of my race. I am proud of who I am. I have a lot of pride and dignity.
I'm happy to be alive, I'm happy to be who I am.
I'm just like anyone. I cut and I bleed. And I embarass easily.
I'm never pleased with anything, I'm a perfectionist, it's part of who I am.
I've helped many, many, many children, thousands of children, cancer kids, leukemia kids.
If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with.
It's a complete lie, why do people buy these papers? It's not the truth I'm here to say. You know, don't judge a person, do not pass judgement, unless you have talked to them one on one. I don't care what the story is, do not judge them because it is a lie.
Just because it's in print doesn't mean it's the gospel.
Let us dream of tomorrow where we can truly love from the soul, and know love as the ultimate truth at the heart of all creation.
Me and Janet really are two different people.
My mother's wonderful. To me she's perfection.
People write negatives things, cause they feel that's what sells. Good news to them, doesn't sell.
Please keep an open mind and let me have my day in court.
The Bee Gees who are brilliant, I just love great music.
The greatest education in the world is watching the masters at work.
The meaning of life is contained in every single expression of life. It is present in the infinity of forms and phenomena that exist in all of creation.
There were times when I had great times with my brothers, pillow fights and things, but I was, used to always cry from loneliness.
They did it to try and belittle me, to try and to take away my pride. But I went through the whole system with them. And at the end, I - I wanted the public to know that I was okay, even though I was hurting.
Well Brooke, I've always liked her, and when I was little I used to stay with Diana Ross, me and my brothers stayed with her for years and I never said, but I always had a crush on her.
Well, especially now I come to realize - and then - I would do my schooling which was three hours with a tutor and right after that I would go to the recording studio and record, and I'd record for hours and hours until it's time to go to sleep.
Well, you don't get to do things that other children get to do, having friends and slumber parties and buddies. There were none of that for me. I didn't have friends when I was little. My brothers were my friends.
When I see children, I see the face of God. That's why I love them so much. That's what I see.
Why can't you share your bed? The most loving thing to do is to share your bed with someone. It's very charming. It's very sweet. It's what the whole world should do.
Yeah, Wacko Jacko, where did that come from? Some English tabloid. I have a heart and I have feelings. I feel that when you do that to me. It's not nice.
Yes, and I had pimples so badly it used to make me so shy. I used not to look at myself. I'd hide my face in the dark, I wouldn't want to look in the mirror and my father teased me and I just hated it and I cried everyday.
You know, let's put it this way, if all the people in Hollywood who have had plastic surgery, if they went on vacation, there wouldn't be a person left in town.
i see missing pieces in his life
He missed out so much and so many in his life
it reminds us that we should live our life at a normal pace and enjoy whatever the world offers us.
HE HAD everything but when he mentioned about children, there is a certain avare garde of missing out.
And I remember going to the record studio and there was a park across the street and I'd see all the children playing and I would cry because it would make me sad that I would have to work instead.
Because I think every child star suffers through this period because you're not the cute and charming child that you were. You start to grow, and they want to keep you little forever.
Because I wanted to have a place that I could create everything that I that I never had as a child. So, you see rides. You see animals. There's a movie theater.
Because parents have power over children. They feel they have to do what their parents say. But the love of money is the root of all evil. And this is a sweet child. And to see him turn like this, this isn't him. This is not him.
Before I would hurt a child, I would slit my wrists.
But I will never stop helping and loving people the way Jesus said to.
Children show me in their playful smiles the divine in everyone. This simple goodness shines straight from their hearts and only asks to be lived.
Elizabeth Taylor is gorgeous, beautiful, and she still is today, I'm crazy about her.
Everyone who knows me will know the truth, which is that my children come first in my life and that I would never harm any child.
Everything that I love is behind those gates. We have elephants, and giraffes, and crocodiles, and every kind of tigers and lions. And - and we have bus loads of kids, who don't get to see those things. They come up sick children, and enjoy it.
I have a skin disorder that destroys the pigmentation of my skin, it's something that I cannot help, OK?
I just wish I could understand my father.
I love my family very much. I wish I could see them a little more often than I do. But we understand because we're a show business family and we all work.
I rememeber one time we were getting ready to go to South America and everything was packed up and in the car ready to go and I hid and I was crying because I really did not want to go, I wanted to play. I did not want to go.
I was a veteran, before I was a teenager.
I will say again that I have never, and would never, harm a child. It sickens me that people have written untrue things about me.
I'm a black American, I am proud of my race. I am proud of who I am. I have a lot of pride and dignity.
I'm happy to be alive, I'm happy to be who I am.
I'm just like anyone. I cut and I bleed. And I embarass easily.
I'm never pleased with anything, I'm a perfectionist, it's part of who I am.
I've helped many, many, many children, thousands of children, cancer kids, leukemia kids.
If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with.
It's a complete lie, why do people buy these papers? It's not the truth I'm here to say. You know, don't judge a person, do not pass judgement, unless you have talked to them one on one. I don't care what the story is, do not judge them because it is a lie.
Just because it's in print doesn't mean it's the gospel.
Let us dream of tomorrow where we can truly love from the soul, and know love as the ultimate truth at the heart of all creation.
Me and Janet really are two different people.
My mother's wonderful. To me she's perfection.
People write negatives things, cause they feel that's what sells. Good news to them, doesn't sell.
Please keep an open mind and let me have my day in court.
The Bee Gees who are brilliant, I just love great music.
The greatest education in the world is watching the masters at work.
The meaning of life is contained in every single expression of life. It is present in the infinity of forms and phenomena that exist in all of creation.
There were times when I had great times with my brothers, pillow fights and things, but I was, used to always cry from loneliness.
They did it to try and belittle me, to try and to take away my pride. But I went through the whole system with them. And at the end, I - I wanted the public to know that I was okay, even though I was hurting.
Well Brooke, I've always liked her, and when I was little I used to stay with Diana Ross, me and my brothers stayed with her for years and I never said, but I always had a crush on her.
Well, especially now I come to realize - and then - I would do my schooling which was three hours with a tutor and right after that I would go to the recording studio and record, and I'd record for hours and hours until it's time to go to sleep.
Well, you don't get to do things that other children get to do, having friends and slumber parties and buddies. There were none of that for me. I didn't have friends when I was little. My brothers were my friends.
When I see children, I see the face of God. That's why I love them so much. That's what I see.
Why can't you share your bed? The most loving thing to do is to share your bed with someone. It's very charming. It's very sweet. It's what the whole world should do.
Yeah, Wacko Jacko, where did that come from? Some English tabloid. I have a heart and I have feelings. I feel that when you do that to me. It's not nice.
Yes, and I had pimples so badly it used to make me so shy. I used not to look at myself. I'd hide my face in the dark, I wouldn't want to look in the mirror and my father teased me and I just hated it and I cried everyday.
You know, let's put it this way, if all the people in Hollywood who have had plastic surgery, if they went on vacation, there wouldn't be a person left in town.
Marilyn Monroe
Marilyn Monroe is an absolute sex goddess.
You may thought that beauty has no brains.
Check out what she said through her lifetime.
You may catch a peek of her humble and sweet nature.
A career is wonderful, but you can't curl up with it on a cold night.
A sex symbol becomes a thing. I just hate to be a thing.
An actress is not a machine, but they treat you like a machine. A money machine.
Before marriage, a girl has to make love to a man to hold him. After marriage, she has to hold him to make love to him.
Being a sex symbol is a heavy load to carry, especially when one is tired, hurt and bewildered.
Dogs never bite me. Just humans.
Dreaming about being an actress, is more exciting then being one.
Fame will go by and, so long, I've had you, fame. If it goes by, I've always known it was fickle. So at least it's something I experience, but that's not where I live.
First, I'm trying to prove to myself that I'm a person. Then maybe I'll convince myself that I'm an actress.
Hollywood is a place where they'll pay you a thousand dollars for a kiss and fifty cents for your soul.
Husbands are chiefly good as lovers when they are betraying their wives.
I am invariably late for appointments - sometimes as much as two hours. I've tried to change my ways but the things that make me late are too strong, and too pleasing.
I am involved in a freedom ride protesting the loss of the minority rights belonging to the few remaining earthbound stars. All we demanded was our right to twinkle.
I am not interested in money. I just want to be wonderful.
I don't know who invented high heels, but all women owe him a lot.
I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it.
I don't mind making jokes, but I don't want to look like one.
I don't want to make money, I just want to be wonderful.
I have feelings too. I am still human. All I want is to be loved, for myself and for my talent.
I have too many fantasies to be a housewife. I guess I am a fantasy.
I knew I belonged to the public and to the world, not because I was talented or even beautiful, but because I had never belonged to anything or anyone else.
I restore myself when I'm alone.
I'm very definitely a woman and I enjoy it.
I've been on a calendar, but I've never been on time.
I've never dropped anyone I believed in.
If I'd observed all the rules, I'd never have got anywhere.
If I'm a star, then the people made me a star.
It's all make believe, isn't it?
It's better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone - so far.
It's not true I had nothing on, I had the radio on.
It's often just enough to be with someone. I don't need to touch them. Not even talk. A feeling passes between you both. You're not alone.
Men are so willing to respect anything that bores them.
My work is the only ground I've ever had to stand on. I seem to have a whole superstructure with no foundation but I'm working on the foundation.
No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they're pretty, even if they aren't.
Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.
The body is meant to be seen, not all covered up.
The thing I want more than anything else? I want to have children. I used to feel for every child I had, I would adopt another.
The trouble with censors is that they worry if a girl has cleavage. They ought to worry if she hasn't any.
There was my name up in lights. I said, 'God, somebody's made a mistake.' But there it was, in lights. And I sat there and said, 'Remember, you're not a star.' Yet there it was up in lights.
What do I wear in bed? Why, Chanel No. 5, of course.
Marilyn Monroe
